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writes:I feel that I need some advice re. my stress. I have a job interview in a few hours and I feel overwhelmed with stress and worry, that I'm in tears and feeling nauseous . I don't have time to go and see a doctor at the moment. But I don't know how to calm down. I have had tea and a breakfast smoothie. (its morning here)There are other reasons why I am feeling this way and I know what those reasons are. Its just that I don't feel calm enough to get out of the house and GO!. I feel this stress is just me/myself and others (my husband) sabotaging this interview. My husband has been arguing with me all weekend, giving me angry and mean looks, and this morning he wakes me up at 5am telling our puppy off and yelling at me because she peed in the house for the first time in 3 days. I've also been sleeping on the couch for over a week to help the puppy get settled.I know I need to get my head on straight and move forward. But I cant seem to get rid of the stress and negative energy around me this morning.
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reader, BookNerd +, writes (2 July 2014):
BookNerd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your wonderful feedback.
I got to the job interview and felt really prepared, I sat down took a sip of water and forgot everything that I have been studying for, for 3 weeks. But that's ok. Any interview is an experience in it self.... But I think that they liked me enough to do reference checks.
I really appreciate your feedback. It really did help.
Oh the reason why my husband was complaining about the new puppy is because he has repeatedly stepped in and almost fell in her pee puddles. So that sort of made me day! :)
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (1 July 2014):
 Do these calming exercises now, and again when you arrive at the interview.
Pace yourself, arrive about 10 minutes early, breath in deeply through the nose for a count of three, hold it for three, breath out for three, repeat this a few times. Before you go into the building shrug your shoulders, this will help release any tension in your neck and back.
While breathing deeply, slowly raise your shoulders up toward your ears. Hold for a count of five and then exhale and slowly lower your shoulders. Roll your shoulders a few times, then repeat the entire process to release pent-up tension.
Smile!
Smiling can trick your mind into feeling better. Studies have shown that even forcing a smile when we don’t feel like it can be enough to improve our mood and help us feel calmer. Smile big and see if you don’t feel better.
Change your posture!
Are you hunched over with your breathing constricted? If so, straighten up! Imagine a string tied to the centre of the top of your head and as it’s pulled, you straighten up. Physical balance translates into improved emotional balance. Improve your posture and feel more refreshed as you breathe more easily.
Take a moment to think before answering questions, if you feel yourself getting flustered take another deep breath. Most interviewers are aware applicants are nervous, so they will allow for a few little stumbles.
Congratulations on getting to the interview stage, and GOOD LUCK!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (30 June 2014):
 And please do take ONE step at a time.
Once you are showered, dressed neatly, have had breakfast and have made sure that you can arrive at the interview a few minutes early then that is half the battle over.
Remind yourself that you are a good employable person. You have skills. You have a unique skill set other wise you would not have been granted an interview.
Breath. Keep calm and remind you of your good points.
You can do this.
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reader, Abella +, writes (30 June 2014):
First off you are not attending the interview to see if you are good enough for them. You are attending the interview to see if they are worthy of your time and effort. (But don't tell them that is your thinking)
But once you take the "me" and "I" out of the equation and start looking at them, to see if their set up/ their business/ their company is a place you would like to work you take the pressure off you.
Take your time.
What type of business? This will affect what you wear and how you present. If retail then it is also important to ask what type of retail?
Is it indoors or outdoors?
Does it make use of your education?
Take along your application and your CV and read both over several times as they may ask you more about something you said in the application or in either. Put both into a clean folder. If you don't have a folder get one on the way. Put a blank piece of paper and a pen in the folder as you may need either. Some interviews require you to complete a very short test. Hence the pen.
Stay calm. Shower, wash and dry your hair if you have time, make sure that you dress in a way that is neat and tidy.
Get to the interview a few minutes early.
If you can find out who will be interviewing you - write their names down on the piece of paper in your folder.
When you first enter the interview area SMILE and offer to shake their hand. Say Good morning. If you know their names then use their names. "Good Morning Mrs Brown" "Good Morning Mr Smith." If they say that you can call them by their given names then you can say "Thank you Mary" "Thank you John"
Now the questions. Prepare some thoughts of what to say to the following questions. The answers provided are only one examples of things anyone might be able to say. Make up your own versions to these answers.
What can you bring to this job? :
I am enthusiastic and well organized. I enjoy meeting people and my aim is to provide the best customer service ever.
Can you explain what you think may be difficult for you in this job? I enjoy challenges and I regard them as enjoyable to identify the things I need to do and plan my time so that I can achieve my goals. If I run out of things to do I make the effort to look around for what needs attention. So I think the most difficult challenge for me is when there is absolutely nothing to do. That situation would be challenging for me.
Can you tell me a time when you met customer needs and exceeded expectations:
In a previous job I dealt with many very elderly clients who could be forgetful. One client was especially forgetful about arriving for her appointments. It inconvenienced everyone when she failed to turn up on the day, or turned up more than an hour late to appointments made. So I spoke to the customer and asked her if she would be happy to receive a text or an email or a phone call, reminding her 24 hours before the appointment and on the morning of the appointment. She said yes to the text and the phone call to remind her. I started doing that and it worked very well. She never missed another appointment. The manager was so pleased that my manager allowed me to instigate this method with other clients who were forgetful and who were agreeable to receive this service.
follow up question: what about the clients who were unwilling to receive the service?:
The manager put up a sign saying that missed appointments without noticed would result in a new charge for time wasted. If they had problems meeting an appointment and failed to advise the practice then the customer was charged for the missed appointment. This resulted in 6 more clients who signed up for the reminder service after they'd missed appointments and had been charged.
Thank them for their time at the conclusion of the interview.
Keep in mind that you need to ensure that they are worthy of your unique skills.
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