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writes:Continue from the last, question. she is 33, and I am 40, we have known each other for 6 years, i have always kept up on her birthdays, we really didn't see or talk within the last 6 years which was just a week fling. So we been together for 4 months, someone I feel like she is the one. She does tarot reading as she is really spiritual, and we belong together (cards say)Virgo her Scorpio me. Although a few weeks ago, we hit a hump, and she said she wasn't into me, she needed more intellectual intercourse from me. Then things were fine, back to normal I thought. My problem is she never wants to talk over the phone, a few but rarely. She went away for a week, and I house sat for her. Then she got back, I picked her up at the airport, and I was spending the day with her, although she just crashed and felt sick. I left, but she was apologetic about it, and she wanted to treat me for dinner. Okay great, although that was all it was supposed to be just a dinner, meeting at the restuarant. I didn't want that, I felt picking her up, and spending the whole night together like we normally would do. Thats what u do in a relationship?So she insisted on Friday night, but she changed her mind again, and I said it was unexceptible. So she was like fine. Perhaps another time she text,and she replied- its clear we are not on the same page. Its like she uses facebook for my replies, and so forth for attention, but I refuse to blurt out my relationship n public. To be honest the common interest are null, but just spending time together we are happy. She went Clubbing witgh her friends last night, a Club across the street where I live. I asked if she wanted me to stop by for one drink, she said I wouldn't recommend it. So I said good night. Then another text at 1:45 am, nite nite, still at the Club. Then I get up, and find on her facebook page, about how she finds her friends guy the hottest guy out there, and she is jealous. Look, she tells me she wants to spend time with me, and she expresses a few xxoxxo in her text. I do love her, or I did. What is she doing? Trying to get attention? She keeps on trying to tell me like I need more machoism from me. She told me she is like a broad without a dick? I mean she still has us in a relationship posted on her facebook. I can not talk to her, cuz she will not answer phone. But what can you get out of texting. What is her deal?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 She's flighty and immature in my opinion and I think it's time for you to move on. Facebook is for teenagers.All it does is create drama and destroys grown-up relationships. She doesn't want a relationship, she wants to "play". You deserve an adult,not someone who plays with an Ouiji board and acts like she's still 21.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 June 2010):
 While I'm relatively sure this isn't what you want to hear, Poster, please keep in mind that you asked.
From your post, I'd say she's trying to let you down easy. Telling you without really coming straight out and telling you that you are not what she wants or needs, right now.
In saying things like "more machismo" and describing herself as "a broad without a dick" she's trying to get a point across to you that she wants a more masculine man and you're not him.
I think she doesn't want to come right out and brutalize you with something like "get lost,buddy" but she's sending clear signals that you're not her guy.
Not answering the phone, and not wanting you around for even a single drink, changing her mind on dates, things like this all add up to: "the end is staring you straight in the face"
She obviously doesn't want to be totally rude to you, but that's what you've got in front of you, I'm afraid.
You could make this easy and just tell her that you feel it's time for you to move on to some one else or that you need your space for some time. Or you can keep hanging on until she blows a gasket and lets it fly, one night when she's had enough. The choice is your's, however I recommend "make it light on yourself" Best wishes.
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