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writes:i think i'm having a real issue with myself. my boyfriend has this one close girl friend, and whenever they are out together i tend to get upset/angry. she is incredibly gorgeous, talented and popular, and this makes me feel really insecure. it's not that i don't trust him and that i think that he will cheat on me, but i feel that when he spends more time with her he will realize all the flaws that i have and fall out of love with me. his parents don't seem to be too fond of me already, as they have commented on how i am shy and quiet and that they don't really know me. only my close friends know my true personality as i don't open up to people easily. i feel like whenever he's with this girl, he will compare me to her and realize that i am not beautiful, or as vibrant and open with my personality as she is. i've always gone through my life feeling second best, whether it be with my brother or the rest of my friends. i don't know what to do because i get so upset thinking about how i'm not good enough and i feel like i can't tell him about it because he will just say that i'm being ridiculous as it's not true. someone help
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reader, caddy_girl10  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 I'm going through the exact same thing! My bf is really close to this girl who I think is 10x prettier than me, he spends more Tim with her than me, because his older brother is dating this girls older sister. It makes me feel idk blah! And when ever he tells me he hanging out with the girl I get super jealous, and I hate being jealous. I try to act like it doesn't bother me but it does! So message me maybe we can figure this out together :)
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reader, jessd1989 +, writes (26 September 2009):
Well first off is he with you or her.(he's with you)..If he did'nt want to be with you don't you think he would break up with you and try to get with her..And it also sounds like your really insecure about yourself and its probably just you thinking that you don't deserve him.And I am sorry to tell you the only way to get this solve is to talk to him and if you tell how the subject upsets before you tell him about how you are feeling and if he loves you or likes you enough and understands where you are coming from your point of view he might be a good guy but if he does'nt and gets defensive there might be something wrong so my question is..Is getting upset more important then asking your boyfriend about this..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): I've been the pretty/popular friend of somebody with a girlfriend before. I thought of him as a brother, and had no idea he fancied me something more until we ggot a little messed up w/drugs+booze one night and he sort of forced himself on me. I didn't wzant to but was too messed up to stop it. I was friends with his girlfriend too (although he was my main friend), and she blamed it on me because he did. I lost two friends (although turns out he was no prize), and they broke up. Not telling you to be paranoid (afterall, your boyfriend's probably not an asshole), but sure, it's a legitimate concern.
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