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writes: hi, this is just a short one. i have been going out with my BF now for 7 months. I have fancied him for years but never had the courage to ask him out. He was like this also so we went on a date and everyone says that we are perfect. For the past 3/4 years he has been the only man i really wanted. however, now i am with him i cant keep away from other men. I have kissed 2 of my ex's since being with him. i even slept with my ex too. And i mean slept with, i did not have sex we just cuddled and went to sleep. why am i acting like this?i love him so much, why am i being strayed away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): I suspect that you suffer from the "Chase" syndrome......You like the chase, but once you have caught the "prey" you lose interest.I also think that you are constantly wanting to be loved.Perhaps as a child you did not receive much love, or some of your siblings was loved more, so there is a need in you to be liked and loved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): Perhaps you have other issues with men and their attention that have nothing to do with the guy.
You sound like you need attention from men, and you probably have issues from your past that make that a serious issue.
This is called cheating, do you want to live your life as a cheat?
Did your dad abuse you, neglect you, is he an alcoholic, did he leave your mother and you, did your mother cheat on your father, etc, etc, etc.
Counselors work to get to the bottom of it, but you need to work to get to a counselor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): I think one of two things might be causing you to stray: either the main attraction to him was because he seemed unattainable in some way, so now you actually have him he isn't as desirable as before, or he hasn't turned out to be quite what you expected and you feel unfulfilled.
I don't doubt that you do genuinely love him, but you have to be entirely honest with yourself; you're dissatisfied in this relationship at some level - and only you can know the reason why. You may have secretly wanted to be with each other for a long time, but sometimes what sounds wonderful theoretically doesn't work as well in practice... like when an item of clothing looks great on the rack, but simply doesn't suit you when you put it on! It can't be helped. You need to tell him the truth about how you feel, and about what happened between you and your exes. "Everyone" says the two of you are perfect together, but if that doesn't ring true to you then for both your sakes, please don't ignore it any longer. Good luck and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): because it excites you. i think you should be decent and tell him,so he can at least have the choice. he thinks you are someone else and i hope you dont act like a victim when you eventualy get found out.
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