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writes: I am 18, and am with a lovely man of 25. We have been together for 10 months, and everything is fine.The problem is, I have always had a crush on my best friends brother. I have been best mates with this girl since i was 10, so i have got pretty close to the family. I used to think about him all the time, and once we slept together after a night out. We both agreed it was a mistake and i didn't wanna ruin my friendship with my best friend, and make things awkward for the family. But i knew deep down inside i loved him! Anyway, just before i got with my boyfriend, me and my best mate had a silly argument over something so stupid, and stopped talking! I got with my boyfriend a month later.A month ago, me and my best mate started talking again. And she invited me round her house for her mum's birthday dinner, and i agreed.As soon as i saw her brother, all the emotions that i once had came rushing back, and i realised they never left me. We got chatting and it turned out he had a girlfriend, and i was ok bause i love my boyfriend! When i got home that night, he rang me and we spoke about what happened between us, and i realised i had strong feelings for him. But he was being funny and just saying he wants to do it again, (sleep with me) I refused and because i have respect for my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend what my best friends brother said, and he went mad and phoned him, and my friends brother said it was because he was drunk!I love and care about my boyfriend, and we are going on holiday in 2 weeks, and im really excited. But i cant get my mates brother out of my head!Im so confused?
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reader, Ary  +, writes (25 August 2010):
i have been crazy about my best friends brother for 5 years ansd shes always accepted it untill he asked her if he could ask me out, then she just flipped and we stopped speaking for ages, about 4-5 months. during that time i thought our friendship was over for good and i wanted to begin my relationship with her brother. he came over to "chat" and we ended up having sex. me and my friend made up and her bro and i kept it all hushed untill i let slip id had sex, and then when i got back from america 2 days ago hed told a friend who had told his girlfriend (who is in my year and hates me) and she had told almost everyone. i decided i needed to tell my friend, so i did, i hated to lie to her and thought, seeing as i loved her brother she would understand. she didnt and i dont know what to do i love him so much but hes gone off and got a girlfriend. he used me for sex and ran off after some girl the day after. dont let that be the situation for you babe if your boyfriend is loyal and you know you love him then kick that other dude out of your head. sometimes its worth it but not when you have a loyal bf
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reader, girlwantinhim +, writes (3 May 2009):
 im 17 and im in a relationship. im not in love with my best mates brother i just really fancy him.i got with my 19 year old boyfriend about 2 months ago after waiting for him for so long.And it was all thanks to my best friend who actually helped me get with him.However,as much as i liked my new boyfriend Graham i had sexual attractions for my frends older brother who was also 19. A day after i got with graham, me an my friends brother were messin about in his room like just flirtin but i thought nothin of it because i knew he was abit out of my league.We were watchin tv together an he told me to lie down cos he couldnt see the tv. So we lay down together and before i knew it we were kissing. The atmosphere was heated as we played about.We didnt have sex but we wanted to.There was only one problem,my friend was in her room,but not for long, she gathered what we was doing so she went out with a group of friends i dont know what came over me but i just didnt care.After about 2 hours of kissin an flirting it was time for me to go. He walked me to the door and give me a goodbye kiss. When i got home i got a call from Graham who had found out from my friend what i had been doing with her brother. He didnt shout and i could tell he was hurt. He just asked me if i still wanted to be with him. I realised that what went on between me an my friends brother was nothing as important to lose my boyfriend who i had been waiting for for over a year so me and graham carried on as usual like nothing ever happend.My friend forgave me aslong as i never touched her brother again,even if i was no longer with graham,and i promised.Now two months on, the sexual feelings i have for my friends brother still remain and knowing that nothing will ever happen without it getting in the way of me and my friend, is just making me want it more.I know this probably will not answer your question but im in a little bit of the same situation.
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reader, khl727  +, writes (31 July 2008):
Hey....i dont have a boyfriend but i did sleep with my bestfriend's brother. He told me that he was feeling for a while and he kept telling me that i was cute and attractive. I told him that i was not going to have sex with him or any other guy until they put a ring on my finger. Once i let him come over to my place, i let my gaurd down. It felt so good to have him over. I kind of wanted to have sex but i didnt want to loose the respect of my best friend, their parents and other sibilings. Like i said one thing led to another. We started playing around with each other and then he pulled my pants off turned me around and stroked me about 5times from behind. I kept telling him to stop because he wasnt wearing a condom. So he pulled out and i sat down. Then he wanted to go at it again and i was like stop. He asked me if it hurted and i told him yes. So he finally stopped and when he stopped i ran into my room and laid down to go to sleep. I went to sleep and woke up like 5 hours later living him to sleep on the sofa . The next morning i took him home and the whole ride i didnt say anything to him. Before he got out of the car he was like, i call you or you call me. I called him twice since the incident to apologize for running out on him and not for stopping him, but he has not called me back. I feel so used. I trust in God and i know that He has forgiven me but i cant find it in my heart to forgive myself. Should i keep calling the dude until he picks up or should i wait until he calls me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): Hey girl, I don't really have any advice, but I can say I feel your pain cause I am so totally madly in love with my friend's brother cause i think he is cute and i wrote like 13 pages about him in my diary. i only told my other friend and she hasn't made a peep yay but when i met up w/her for the first time in like 3 years she told me the first day that she thought my brother was cute and i went crazy. anyhow, now you know you are not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2006): I'm in the same position. Well I'm only in middle school so it'll only make a lil difference. I'm friends with this girl naem Melody and i kinda have a crush on her brother a lil before i even meet her or knew they were realted. I am too currently in a realation ship but broke it off cause it wouldn't be fair to me or him. My advice to u is to go with ur heart. Although I am only in middle school, that shouldn't matter! I also have another prob, my friends asked David, Melody's brother out for me and I didn't know that they did. He said no but now everyone is saying that he likes me. What should I do? Give him another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): i have done and am in exactly the same situation and i want you to know that, you should forget about him if he just wants sex and nuffin else then he is a loser. you may not be able to stop thinking about him becoz he showed you some attention at one point, but look what is right in front of you. you have a guy who wants to be with you in every way. you never know what youve got until you loose it. i lost my boyfriend through my dilema. i would hate for there to be two of us in the world who made the same mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005): don't let people tell you to "get him out of your head". what do strangers know about what you really feel.? i'm in a similar situation and i believe its because no one person can REALLY give you all that you need. maybe you're not ready to be committed to anyone. maybe you just happen to know two really great guys and you have feelings for both of them. you're not bad or wrong for having these feelings. its just important that you make a decision so that no one is hurt. if you decide to not be committed to either of them, then you save yourself alot of guilt and pain. maybe telling your boyfriend that you can't be committed to only him would be good, cause your whole heart isn't in it. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): i looked up in google....im in love with my best friends brother..and this is what came up. im 17 and ive got it baad for my best mates bro. like shes my bestest mate. i see her nearly every day. her brother is 20 and absolutely gorgeous!! and my mate always told me that he used to joke around and say that i was hot and can he have my number. one night we all got really really drunk togther...me, my mate and some other friends. everyone went to bed and i was in bed in the spare room and he came in and jumped in bed with me...all i can say is WOW!! best i have ever had. i left the next morning b4 any1 got up. my friend figured it had happened coz he had huge hiccies all over his next and i did too! she thought it was hilarious coz she didnt know that we slept togther. then i could not stop thinking about him...and its sooo wierd for me because i never like guys ever! i never get attached...im such a player. it sucks to fully like someone and not be able to do anything about it. then i was staying at her place again one time and she went out with this guy and i was supposed to get picked up but i didnt and her bro came home and it was just me and him. and we went and got some drinks and just drank and listened to music...it was wierd...we never talked about what happened like it never happened at all. then it came up and hes like...did you regret it? and im like no. and then we started hooking up and my friend rang and asked where i was and i said her place and she was like...oh wierd im 10mins away. so i grabbed all my stuff and me and the bro left and drove to my place and told rach i had left coz i had to go home real quick. we went to my place and had the most amazing time. afterwards he left and i felt so used. i couldnt stop crying. i have never felt this way before. it totally sucks. no-one knows about the second time. i know she would hate me if dhe knew. its so deceitful and dodgy. all i can say is that doing it in secret is fun but do not tell her...it will ruin your friendship. you cant ever see your friends brother....imagine when you hand out with him all time and not her?? and what about when you break up??? it will only mess everything up. ive decided to just stop thinking about him and be a player again!! i didnt really answer your question.....just told you this huge story. but i had to get it off my chest! i havent told any1 i feel like this. i feel better...thanks!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): all i can say is oh my god! i am 15 and have known my best friend since i was 10 also. i have gotten very very close to her family too and over this past year i've stayed at her house most every nite! i have had the biggest crush ever on her brother (16) for two years now! my best friend kinda knows i like him, but she wuld hate me if i told her about how strong my feelings r for him. i mess around with him every nite i sleep over there when she is sleeping...i feel realy guilty about it and i dont wana ruin our friendship. about 1 1/2 months ago i also lost my virginity to him, making my feelings for him so much stronger...i think about him 24/7 and only 2 of my close friends that r also kinda friends wit my best friend know about all of it....they r the only ones i can tell evrything to! i know im only 15, but i know what love is and i love this guy...he realy likes me too i know, and i wana date him more than ne thing- but im so scared she'll hate me 4 ever! i told this all to you becuz as u can see i am in a very similar situation and i know just how u feel! i suggest that u 2 keep in touch and talk still alot...you, ur best friend, and her brother shuld talk about wats going on and maybe it can get cleared up. that way u wont b so confused. i think mayb if it gets out in the open everyone will feel relieved. i know just how u feel and im totaly there 4 u!! i cannot say any of my personal info in case my best friend were to maybe stumble upon this, but write back to this and i will give it to u there i promise!! and good luck hun!
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reader, Cymraes +, writes (24 April 2005):
Don't worry about it, it's just a crush!!! If you love your boyfriend, get the other guy out of your head! He's just tormenting you and if you keep thinking about him, your boyfriend will catch on, and he might even dump you! So get him out of your head; trust me, he's not worth it!
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