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36-40,
*jc-88
writes:hi i don't really know how to start this but here it goes. i've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and in the beginning it started out great. we loved been together, everywhere we went it was together. we were always together. we got engaged really quickly after 6 months and moved in together around that time too. this was the first real relatioship i've ever had and really love her. but i never really did a lot around the house apart from the cooking, she's asked me time and time again to change how i am and start to pull my weight around the house more. i did change and i did start to do more but after a couple of weeks i was how i used to be. but now shes given me one last chance to change and it has really sunk in, i don't want to lose her and will do anything to keep her. but i fear she doesn't feel the same way which is understandable. but how can i get her to see that i have changed and don't want to finish the relationship thanks cjc-88
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (27 September 2007):
 you're on your last warning, ans she sounds like a girl who you don't mess with, so i suggest you stick to your helpful, cleaning ragime and hope it's not to late.
she's probably frustrated that she had to give you an ultimatum before you bucked up your ideas but if you show her you're going to do your upmost best to prove your love is genuine, she'll stick it out.
she's just fed up of playing mum to you, guys who have had it easy for them, find t a real culture shock fending for themselves but you're going to have to learn and see that things are equal now, you are capable of doing everything she is..... so share the chores !!!
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): I like the sound of your g/f! Now your not her child, she's not going to clean up after you and do all the housework if another adult in the house. Think about how she feels, what if you two had kids? she would be looking after the kids and doing all the HW, she dosen't want too be in that postion so she's giving you a warning. Don't be a lazy pig, live in the 20 centry and help around the house, your an grown adult. All you need to do it set up a routine with her, what she and you are going too do.
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