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writes:Hello. So I'm always trying to make people happy, To make people smile. To make a difference in anyones life. I focus so much on others that I sometimes forget what I want. I realized I wanted to start hanging out with my old highschool friend again. We recently decided to make things official. We are now dating. I have liked him for years. And now I'm so happy with him, but ive realized I've started to form a little sassy attitude, I tend to back talk and I'm starting to come off a little rude toward people who only except a friend who will comfort them. I feel like if I keep seeing this guy my attitude will get so bad I will start lossing my friends. The people I love. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 May 2012):
 I don't think you can put the blame on HIM for your new attitude. I think you need to look into WHY you all of a sudden thinks that being "sassy" is the way to go.
Think before you talk. Maybe that will lessen the rudeness.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Why is being with this guy affecting the way you communicate with others? Does he encourage or admire a rude attitude? Is he an influence?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): You are a people pleaser which is not such a good thing. One thing to really care and another to try to always p,ease someone, and how you said try to make someone happy. You can't make anyone happy, and it's also not your job really.
Now when you have your boyfriend and you are happy, your need in pleasing others is not that strong anymore. May be you feel bad about it, may be that's where this attitude comes from?
And you should never forget what you want. Always trying to make people happy ussualy is not a rewarding thing to do. They can take care of themselves unless they are small children. To help a friend in need to correctva temporary situation, it's one thing, but to always help that friend it's very much different
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