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writes:sooo i dont know what to do...so im 20 and ive been in a relationship for 3 years with a chick i dated my highschool days, I guess you could say highschool sweetheart, we've had a pretty rough past. shes cheated on me a few times, no physical cheating but talking sexually and sending pictures and whatnot. me myself ive been very faithful for the whole relationship. she says she's done with that but constantly has guys texting her which to me is messed up cause they had to get the number from somewhere...the deal is...im ready to settle down and get with a WOMAN, not a girl... idk wether to just push through and hope for the best or just jump on a relationship website and find someone whose ready to settle down like i ami love her and would love to make it work but idk if this is the love im looking for
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 October 2012):
 Yes, true love is always worth going the extra mile.
It is fulfilling. You feel like there is no one else in the world who cares and understands, supports and respects you like the one you love. But it takes time to build the rapport. It does not just 'happen' in even the most adoring relationships. there are shared activities of course. There is give and take. There are times where you show compassion and kindness when you are exasperated.
As the TRUST builds you find you are able to say exactly what is on your mind without WWIII breaking out. Trust, Honesty and Fidelity and Good Communication are the building blocks to build a Good relationship.
And never never never fight dirty. That is a NO NO. Look at the issue at hand, focus on the issue. Start to Discuss and resolve the issues within 5 minutes of the problem occurring. Not 5 hours and never 5 days after the problem occurs. Then it is fixed to never be revisited again. That's fighting clean.
I think you need to work with her an set some medium and long term goals with her about your future together.
Perhaps your relationship is too aimless at the moment.
The problem is that I think the two of you have sunk into a rut. Accordingly first I will give you a link to a true love story.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/love-really-can-conquer-all-a-story-of.html
And secondly you may like to change your actions to gain a new response from her. To that end I give you:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-our-relationship-falling-apart.html
Please see my answer to the OP whose relationship has fallen apart.
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