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writes:I'm 27 and I've never been in a proper, long-term relationship. First, work got in the way and then I had a few very short term relationships with guys who didn't treat me well.Recently I met a great guy. He's so nice, treats me really well, respects me and seems to want to get to know me. We've been out on a few dates now and just by the things he says I can tell he likes me and is interested in pursuing things further. BUT I don't think I'm that physically attracted to him. He's kissed me a few times now, just quick pecks on the lips while saying bye and I haven't really given him an opportinity to try more.I just don't have this need to kiss him or touch him or cuddle up to him. He's a great guy and we have so much in common but I just don't have this desire to get intimate with him. The other day when we were out I was almost dreading the end of our date because I knew there'd be the obligatory kiss at the end. What I'm confused about is whether this is just nerves on my part (considering my prior lack of experience with many of these things) or if I'm genuinely not attracted to him.I'd like to know, from those of you with experience with dating/relationships, is whether I should be feeling very attracted to him in order to keep dating him?Should I stick it out a bit more and try to get intimate with him (not sleep with him of course, just a bit more than the peck on the lips)?I like spending time with him but like I said above I have no desire to touch him, kiss him or anything like that. Should this already be there or do I need time?I have no idea what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to both of you. I think I'm confused at the moment but I don't want to waste his time either. I'll think about this and let him know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): ... hmm in chemistry sometimes the throw in catalysts to get things to go bang. I don't think that would work here.
I think its best to let him know there is no magic chemistry and you are sorry. It will hurt, he will be upset. But thats better than anything else.
If you think its because of shyness - well practice. and practice more - that's my advice.
Star.x.
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