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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: i am 16 and i have a boyfriend, we've been officially going out for around 3 weeks but had a thing for just under 2 months. I feel very comfortable around him but that's the thing...there is no spark for me. I kinda just went into the relationship not thinking it would be serious, but it is very much so to him. There's this other guy who is one of his good friends and we got of and ever since then iv had this feeling which has grown stronger. i get butterflies when i see him and sparks just bounce of eachother. we are not initiating anything but i know we both want to but can't. what do i do? i have been not myself for around 2 weeks, confused and upset, crying because i do care about my boyfriend but i just feel like we arnt in it for the same reasons, i am not ready for another serious relationship i just want fun but he doesn't. but he has no faith in girls after his ex, and i would feel guilty forever but i just have such strong feelings for his friend it's ruining my relationship with my bf.. WHAT DO I DO? I FEEL TRAPPED AND CONFUSED.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Three weeks isn't a long time - tell him that you're not looking for anything serious, that you don't feel as though you are ready to make a commitment to him, that you want to be honest with him about it because you respect him. Don't lead him on. It's fine that you don't want a serious relationship - at 16, and after three weeks, it would be a lot more worrying if you were thinking about marriage.If he has no faith in girls, the worst thing you could do would be to lie to him. Don't lead him on. Be honest with him. It will upset him, but if you lead him on he'll get a lot more hurt in the long run.Good luck!
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