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*anchesterlad09
writes:Hi All, this is pretty alien to me and the first time i have done this. Basically just over 2 weeks ago myself and my girlfriend split up. Now we were only together for 3 months but in that 3 months apart from during work times etc used to spend all our time together and had an amazing relationship. I have previousley been in 2 serious and lengthy relationships which have ended and i have always got over those very quickly really and certainly not felt down or alone etc.This time is very different though and i'm really struggling to understand why i'm feeling so emotional and down about it. Up until the final week of the relationship myself and her were doing great, no arguments, we were always active and doing new things together - i was something that she'd never experienced before apparently, i took her to nice places, we were very spur of the moment and just drove miles away to places to be by ourselves but in the final week of the relationship for some reason we had a week of ongoing arguments which finally came to a head on the friday and she left my house.On the saturday i was aware that it was the wrong decision but she basically went straight out with her mates and when we met the following tuesday to have a chat about the situation it was almost as if she didn't care at all - she said that she was switching her emotions off which i found ridiculous.The other night i was at a friends when she same in and started showing a text message to her mate from some lad which really got on my nerves.It seems that as time goes on its getting harder for me, i feel quite lost and pretty emotional and while if i wanted to be i could be surrounded by people and friends im choosing not to be alot of the time. Again i've really never experienced this before and don't know the best way to go about dealing with it - we mix within the same group of people which doesn't make it any easier so i almost feel like packing my bags and starting again somehwere else.Any thoughts or advice on how to get over the relationship and move forward would be great.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 July 2009):
 that indeed could be true she probably wants to see how much you still care about the whole thing.
she's doing it to make you jealous and get a reaction of you!
girls do it.
it's our way of trying to get guys to prove how much we mean to them.
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reader, manchesterlad09 +, writes (14 July 2009):
manchesterlad09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks ilovebowsandcherries - thoughts appreciated. A lot of people have said that she may have done this and popped up to get a reaction because she still cares. How true or not this is I don't know
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 July 2009):
well she is clearly making you jealous by being in your face showing her mates a text from some lad!
she's obviously over the relationship.
i think maybe you thought because you guys had such a great time in the relationship with little if any arguments that you thought this could be it this could be the one you are destined to be with... and because it all happened just after 3 months you are clearly very hurt and crushed because you felt you'd gotten on so well together and probably had a future together.
i mean she is clearly uncaring she obviously felt less for you than you thought.
which is an awful thing to go through.
i guess the only thing you can do really is give yourself some time and space to yourself.
gather your thoughts and feelings.
i know its hard but you must try to forget her seems like she's already done that for you.
Hope this helps hun :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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