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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:So I've met this younger man on a dating website. He used to live in my area, but has moved back home because he is training for a fight. We instantly hit it off for a couple months and called and text each other almost every day. He recently has started a new job, which has made him extremely too busy to even talk to me anymore because he has that, training,and more training. I didn't make any assumptions right away because I know he's a good guy, only that he was just busy with work and training for his fight. So I text him and wrote him an email saying that I understood his circumstances and that I was okay with him doing what he has to do because I know that training came with his lifestyle and I know he needs to pay bills. But the problem is that he hasn't responded to me at all for the last week. What concerns me is that we made arrangements for me to fly to him so that we could finally meet for the first time. I know he's legit and I trust him, but his lack of communication on his end worries me because if he was really interested in me, he would find some time to even respond to me..I mean he had time to read my emails and texts!! His only respond to me was a couple of days ago when I finally decided to text him and tell him that "It's obvious that I'm being ignored and I am going to cancel my trip to see you." He called upset at why I would cancel my trip. I told him I hadn't yet, but that I was going to because he was lacking in communication. Even that conversation was short because he was on his way to practice and he told me he would call me that night...it has been 3 days and I've text him a couple times (but not too excessively), but to no avail! It is about two weeks till I go on my trip, but am thinking of rescheduling or cancelling because he hasn't made any effort to communicate with me to let me know what's going on or what his new schedule is like or if any of his feelings have changed, his circumstances, etc. So my question is should I cancel, wait for him to respond, or give him the benefit of the doubt that he may just really be too busy? maybe my expectations are just too high....You tell me folks....
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 I strongly believe that if he was 'into' you he would have replied to your message's even though he's really busy, I would send another message stating that you will be changing your travelling plans as you are not sure where you stand.
See what happens if he replies saying that he wants you to go etc then don't cancel your plans you can go and have a lovely time together, but if he doesn't reply i think you know what that means!
Good luck with it, hope it goes well for you!
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