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writes: Why does he tell me that i will find someone better then him when i told him that he is the only one for me?I have loved this man with all my heart since 8th grade. Yea i know its strange and i know people are going to be like she couldnt have becuz your so young at that age and you dont know what love is but im now 21 and i still feel the same way. Him and i were best friends in high school and we dated for 3 months and now we are friends now. But we still kiss each another goodnite and we still have alot of chemistry between us that "just friends" shouldnt have. I dont know what to do. Everyone tells me to follow my heart and i am. But it seems to keep crossing lines with just be friends with him thing. I dont mind being friends and all cuz we get along great. Our dating relationship was great as well no fighting or nothing. He just didnt want to have a girlfriend at this time. I started thinking well maybe im being silly by waiting out for him so i asked him one day just out of wondering cuz i just wanted a straight out answer from him just to see where he stands and i said "was i a bad girlfriend?" he said "no you were not" then i asked him " you'll never want to date me again would you" and he said "no i wouldnt say that"That same nite we kissed on the lips before i left. So i dont know what to do. Im not ready for a boyfriend becuz i dont feel like i could ever like or even love an other as much as i love this man that i have sit my heart on. He's not ready for a girlfriend right now either. At least he does't want one now. Im glad that i asked him thoses questions cuz at least i know that its not cut out saying its over between us if you know what i mean. This is something that i see happening in the next couple of weeks if him and i hangout. I think whats going to happen is we are going to end up being "just freinds" for now but still have flirty touchy moments like we did that night. And then maybe a few months/a year or so we might end up dating again. I dont know. All i know is hes trying to go back to school and im trying to finish school. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): The way i see it a the moment is that he's keeping you hanging on a piece of thread. He knows your there to flirt with and he probably enjoys that but if something was going to happen i think it would've happened already...you've given him enough chances. He obviously knows how you are feeling and is putting you through heartache but is not doing anything to ease this.
At the moment you seem to have 'tunnel vision' on this lad - you can't see anyone else but him. Look around, there are loads of nice guys out there...you might find that this lad is not the guy of your dreams and then you'd be happy to be just friends...and you never know, if you go off an meet other guys this lad might just sit up and take notice!
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