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writes: OMG! lately i've been so confused, i dont know what i want i dunno, it seems like im over my ex but then theres momements where i think about him, we still talk but we're kinda iffy with each other, we've told each other that we dont love each other anymore but we miss each other! i' might be seeing him this comin weekend but i'm scared that ALL the feelings may come back, but i guess the reason why im goin there is to figure out how i feel! he seems to have really moved on, going partyz having gatherings with people he hasnt seen in agez! and drinking almost every night. I don't know, i can see my future and i'm not sure how i want him to fit into it.Theres this new boy his my ex's friend and i feel awful! but he is sucha nice guy but i know for sure that my ex would go bizerk about it! i dunno! i dont want me and him to fight anymore it just makes us drift even further then we have. and im really lookin forward to seein him soon jus to hang out.I am not sure if i want to get back i'm pretty sure dat we're OVER for good because of the way things seem. ANd im sure that i dont want to go thru that pain of loving him EVER again.. but then agen... i dont know if i want to be without him.. well.. i dunno! i've never been so confused! i'll tell you a bit about our relationship, wen we met each other you couldnt imagine how many sparks we had between us, late night meet ups! talking every day every night, msgin each other non stop, flirting like crazy! he was my everything! although things got more complicated because i never told him how i felt about him, and so he assumed i didnt want anything. and i assumed he wasnt interested! sooo... wen we found out about each others doings, it got us upset, after about 8 months of this up and down ride we finally got together and decided to be official! wen we started off the sparks were still there...we were so loving of each other but then because we werent used to havin control over each other it became a clash and a very big problem! he and i are very possessive and after 7 months of that, it got quite tiring. and we started fightin non stop! we hit 8 months had a stupid lil fight and broke it off now for a month.and this led me to complete confusion! i dont see how we wont work out because of our past and how mcuh we loved being together but i dont see how i am happy this way, without him, but still missing him like crazy i cant work out how i feel..
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reader, sezzyboo +, writes (24 November 2006):
everyone goes through this situation and unfortunately, there is no wrong or right way to go about it. i'm went through the same situation so i know its really confusing.
it is a very confusing time and u need to make sure what you want. write down a pros and cons list, talk to your friends about how u feel, even talk to your ex. by chewing over the facts and the choices that u have, u should be able to come to some form of decision.
if your afraid of not finding someone else like him, then your not alone. it is really scary to have to find someone that shares the same interests and likes, but just remember that you found love once, there is no reason that u cant always find love again.
but from what you have said, about not going with your ex friend shows that u dont want to ruin any chance of getting back with your ex. so what you need to do is re asses what has happened before, what drove u to break up? what annoyed you about the realationship? when you decided what got you to breaking point, you would have to decide whether or not u are prepared to get back int a relationship...if u can get past previous arguments and can accept that you have a personality clash and (with every relationship) have the odd argument then u should try again. make sure u talk about how u feel so u both know where u stand.
if u feel that its just a waste of time and u cant keep going through the pain then all u can do is just stick by your decision. its not easy, for there is not a day that goes by that you wont miss your ex and u want him back,and it is so easy to get back into old habbits, but in the end u jus end up hurting yourself.
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