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writes:Right.. It's been about seven months since my ex broke up with me after a relationship lasting two and a half years. In total, we've known eachother for five years and we're very good friends.. From that stemmed my believe a good relationship; maybe one that'd last a lifetime would sprout. For further details, I'd like to direct you to: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/broken-hearted-losing-sight.html. Since I wrote that during those times... Well, time has been helpful but has not completely healed the wounds and I still have a lot of hard times. We don't talk anymore; a decision I made and only got strengthened by my highly agitated emotions caused by the heartbreak and the confusion. Because of the latter, I've also created distance between some old friends and me, since they didn't help in the way I'd have expected they would. And it hurted me; a lot. I have my sports, my work and god knows what I still have left in the mess I sometimes can't figure out. But.. So many people have shown their true faces to me and eventually also left me, leaving me with bewilderment and lines as "I've moved on. I'm sorry." So, I wonder... What is true love? What is true friendship? It seems everyone around me and even my ex is getting everything thrown into their lap while I have to stand tall, carry the sword and fight like a lion. But, this lion is getting tired of it.. tired of standing in a battlefield surrounded by way too many opponents he can't fight by himself.I truly don't know, I've lost faith and became bitter towards love and friendship; I'm doing my best to stay hopeful and positive. Yet, I wish I didn't miss my ex so much, or my best friends. A lot of people told me I'm a nice guy and look good; the usual jabber but, meh. Those words are dull to me. If I'm such a good fellow; why do I have to fight so much? I've got so many questions still lying around, as you can see and hardly any of them have been answered clearly. I even started to look for them in my dreams or even contacting a.. medium (I think) to just know what I should do.I don't know anymore.. I'm not going to end it all but, for a guy who's suffered so much the last couple o' years (break-up excluded) I would love to see some results by now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2011): Seriously, the world is so much bigger than the circle (or polygon) of people you know right now. Go out and get a change of scenery. Otherwise, with the attitude you are showing now, you will only get your self-fulfilling prophecy.
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reader, Ravons +, writes (13 May 2011):
Ravons is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, my ex finally found someone new now. It crushed me when I heard it, broke down crying even. Of course, it just clearifies that I've been used for the entire time.
Funny, isn't it? I truly now lost faith in finding love ever again. I mean, love is just a novelty to those who truly are blessed to receive it.
I guess I'm just forced to suck it all up and watch from the sidelines, everyone finding someone with me just havin' to smile away my own sorrow and faltering dreams of ever seeing myself walking among them ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): Well, I don't know what exactly happened between you and them, but... Empathy is not exactly a strong point for people around your age. So it's unfortunate but not surprising that your friends didn't help you the way you wanted. It may look like they're all having a great time but that may not actually be the case--time will tell. No one has a smooth journey all the way.I totally understand that you're disappointed and miss your ex and your friends. But you will find new people to share your life with. You will find that as you grow and experience new things, you'll have different sets of people who are close to you. (I read somewhere that on average, people change friends every 7 years.) Different people will be important to you at different stages of your life.Who says nice handsome guys should be immune from problems? That would be unfair to the ugly guys, wouldn't it? Everybody has problems. You'll be a better man for having "fought".
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 I am like you, we have very similar points of view. We cannot change, we are who we are. A man who fights like a lion cannot change and become a cat to chill out. Well, the price we pay though is that we could (but not necessarily) end up alone with no real relationships, no women in our lives and no real friends. And that is the path I choose in life, just like Jim Morrisson said "I seek for the truth", no matter the cost. Keep fighting!
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