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writes:I've liked this guy forever and let's just leave it at that. I've barely talked to him. I've tried to get over him, I really have. I'm involved in a band and I've tried to take my mind off him. But when my mind isn't consumed with my daily activies, it's always on him, I've tried everything. I've tried liking other guys, but those only last a week or two then my mind goes straight back to him. He's a nice guy, don't get me wrong. I just want to know why I've liked him so long. I'm one of those people that God has things happen for a reason. So there must be a reason why I've liked him so long, maybe something might happen between us in the future. I don't know. What do any of you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): lol i have the same problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): What I think is that you have developed a kind of obsession over this guy....and it could actually stem from an anxiety disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder. The fact that you think you are "special" and that God is making things happen in your life for a reason is indicative of some sort of biological mental disordered thinking. It isn't serious, but I think you should talk to your doctor about these thoughts that you "can't get out of your mind".
Having thoughts about a guy you have barely talked to, but feel you must be destined to be with in the future is based entirely on fantasy. There must be some basic need or fear that you have and are using these continual thoughts about this man you barely know as a way to protect you from them....
It does not mean that you are destined to be with him. In fact your thoughts are keeping you from forming relationships with real men that have come into your life...it isn't really healthy for you to hold onto this idea that it means something because the thought of him keeps popping into your mind and has for so long.
It is common to have crushes on love objects for people of your age group. It is sort of a practice in our minds for the real thing that we will experience when we are more emotionally mature.
So I am not suggesting that you definately do have an anxiety disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder, I don't know because I am not an expert nor have you been seen by one. But from what you say here it seems to be a bit of a problem for you, so I would go and talk to some one about it just to be sure.
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