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writes:I have what may or may not be a fairly common question, but I am rather lost regardless. I am a rather geeky guy, I am good at math/physics, but am extremely bad when it comes to talking to others. In terms of friends, I do not have many, but am confident that I can rely on any of them. The problem with this is that I have feelings for one of the girls that I am friends with. I have known her for a long time, and we have always gotten along. The problem is that she is one of maybe four or so people in my school that I can comfortably talk to. I am nervous that if I try to strike up a relationship with her, she will reject me and the awkwardness that comes with that will end our friendship.A few notes on how I know her:-Met in grade 9 (currently 12)-Had 1 date in grade 9, didn't continue, but stayed friends anyway, after several months of awkwardness.-Lately we have been spending more time together - movies, dinner etc. but only as friends, with no romance involved.-I asked her to prom (which is soon), but it is uncertain precisely how she perceived my invitation. She agreed immediately, however.-I have heard rumors that she had a crush on me sometime in the recent past, but do not know if they were true and if so, whether she has gotten over it by now.-The reason that I am somewhat skeptical about these rumors is that I see nothing to which she could possibly be attracted in me. She is smarter in everything but math and physics, she has a better sense of humor, and is generally a more interesting person.Ultimately my question is this: should I try to pursue a relationship with her even at the possible expense of losing her as one of my few friends?Thank you,amazurenko
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): She probably wants you.
Don't try to understand it because you'll just talk yourself out of believing it, and/or you'll be thinking less of her for liking you.
Don't get caught up in what you think you should do about it, just be yourself. This sounds so stupid but it's true.
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