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writes:Petra at home, I love your comments! More advice please!Yes the times I have had sex are really spaced apart. The first time I had sex was June of 2008. Then again in July. Then again in August. All with the same man. Then I didnt have sex til Feb. I got drunk and accidentally slept with this guy that I had encountered a couple of times. Then I had sex with this same guy in April then July. That makes 6 times. Then I slept with this guy that I worked with one night. I got drunk again but I really didnt think that it counted but my friends said it did. Anyway from what I remember, that wasnt good either. But like you all said, its probably because I wasnt really into these guys. But I know so many girls who engage in meaningless sex and really enjoys it. I just assumed that something was wrong with me. To Petra at home, I always love ur comments, yes ive masturbated but I cant seem to relax enough for penetration. Ive used porn and Ive tried thinking of personal fantasies but my imagination sucks. And I just remembered when I have sex, my stomach begins to hurt. Its like a cramp that sits there. I dont know. Im celibate now. I havent had sex in about 6 months but I really want my next time to be enjoyable. What can I do to ensure that? And yes the next time will be with someone that I really like but I dont want to encounter this problem again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses and as you can see i have only had drunken sex 2 out of the 7 times. I dont even remember those experiences but I still count them. And because of these awful experiences I dont drink that much anymore. In fact, Im pretty much the DD cuz all of my friends know that I wont do much drinking. Two glasses at the most. As far as the other times it still wasnt enjoyable and no alcohol was present.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): Drunk sex with random guys usually isn't what most women enjoy long term. Feels ok during sex then afterwards the memory isn't good.
Uh,, stop having drunksex with random guys ??
Women generally need/desire a connection with the male. Find the right male, build a relationship then have sober sex.
(women need a reason,, men just need a place)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): Stop having sex when you are drunk for starters. Maybe you are like me: I don't get wet when Im drunk. And then many guys can't come, or stay hard at all, so the sex when drunk is the worst sex you can have. Take it from me, Ive had plenty of one-night stands and 98% of it is bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): Wait until you fall in love. Your experiences mirror mine when I was very young, and It was not enjoyable. You're forcing yourself with porn because you think you HAVe to have sex. Why? No one is ready until they fall in love. Then you will WANT to consummate your love with that person. Just because other girls enjoy meaningless sex is no reflection on you. For some women, it is an "acquired taste", so stay celibate until you WANT to have sex. Never because you "should", that ruins it. And the first time you love someone you will feel like you have a strong urge, you will be wonderfully content! Good luck at finding your true love!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 Fall in love. And all the good feelings will be multiplied by infinity.
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