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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for some months now. I am 21 and he is 24. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship with 2 different women. I met my boyfriend way back almost 6 years ago true significant friends and we've been friends ever then but sinds june 2010 we start haning out really often and going party together with my girls and his boys and then we startin hooking up then and now we're in a realtionship. The thing is that his ex babymama nr2 is really bugging me out, she is sending me emails that she wanna get her family back and that i should back off and calling me names and being so rude u can't imagine, saying how typical that a women always have to have a man that already is with somebody else, but the thing is they are'nt together aymore they broke up in april 2010 and she moved out back to her parents house and we got in a big discussion in the mail that she wrote to me, and i really can't take this anymore i hate that they have a kid together because this sound so immature but they do have something common and that makes me jealous cause she hates my guts she really does and i hers, but she need to get the pic that im with him. He's also everyday at her house to see his child , after work he passes there to see him at first i did'nt mind it but after that she wrote me in the mail saying that when my boyfriend comes by her house but not for his son but for HER really pisses me off, she calls him 24/7 everyday and pings him on the BBM , my thing is that i just want him to contact her of she him if its something about the child and if it isn't then they should'nt be any conctact, im so angry and pissed off and everything .. i dont know if i should break up with him or not, 2 months ago we were talking and when the ex was sendin me stuffs i said to him i can't do this anymore imma bout to drop everything and then he was like ''no dont drop it , i dont wanna loose you'' and i was i don't wanna loose u either but with the EX i cant go on like this its killing me, im so afraid and jealous that she takes him away from me because they have a kid together .. by the way in october i had an abortion by my boyfriend cause im not ready to have child right now and don't wanna put my kid into a place where is so much drama, so the ex was saying in the mail also how a bad mother a would be in the future because i had an abortion but i had it because it did'nt feel right to have a kid right now with him and when he already have 2 kids and by 2 different women.Anyhow i was so pissed that he told her that i was preg , so i said to her its not u damn buisnes what i do/did or not do because if i would have the baby SHE would be the one that would get THE most hard time with it cause she hates me so much .. i've cried so much cause this really hurts me, i really wanna be with him but the ex is a problem cause she really wants him back, by the way when we were just hooking up he had a tattoo with the letter of the EX a heart in the middle and the letter of the son and the date of his and her realtioship, and i so dont get it why he did that cause he says he dont wanna be with her anymore, i dont trust it, cause when i first asked it he lied to me that it was something else but i always knew it cant be nothing but something of the EX and in the mail she also wrote how can u be with someone that has my first letter on his arm u like second places, and thats how i knew for sure so i asked i him about it and he didnt wanna give a right answer he was like: i did it for myself, and i was like nooo u did it for her didnt you, and it was a big discussion about that also.. so now i really dont know what to do and what not to do, last month(novemeber) i went away for some days to visit a girlfriend but it was outside Holland and so i didnt speak to him for a couple of days then he was like its crazy how much im missing u now i know u the one for me blblalbla and that he's mother wanna meet me and stuffs .., i really dont know what to think... i always said to myself never be with somebody that has a kid and the babymama but it did happend and if this dont work out, I will never ever ever ever be with somebody with a kid, sorry but its soooo much to handle, i cant do this .. im so in love but him its so hard to get out of it also? can u guys help me ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Since you have had it with the baby mama drama, LEAVE HIM. You are too good for this mess. Do you hear me? You are TOO GOOD TO BE PUTTING UP WITH HIS CRAP.
Leave him before you become baby mama #3.
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