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writes: Im a single mum and have been on my own for five years with two really awful relationships in between! I have been single for a year now and have just reached a stage where i feel really 'ok' to be on my own. Just me and my kids :) Problem is that i have met an amazing guy who i get on so well with its spooky! We both have a fantastic time together and he is coming up to see me in a few weeks, as he lives quite far away. I met him through a close friend and im now feeling really vunerable as i have got really strong feelings for him already! We talk every day and i know it sounds nuts but i have never felt so close and so natural with anyone in my life. We can talk about anything and both feel like we have known each other for ages. I suppose the thing i want to ask, is if anyone else has had similar worries and do you think my feelings of being vunerable will fade? Im just really confused as i don't know if i would be able to pick myself up again if it does'nt work. I have been hurt so badly before and it took so long to repair myself and to be comfortable on my own. Not sure if i should take the risk!?! Would really appreciate any feedback! Thanks!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Dark_Storm11 +, writes (28 January 2006):
 Hi there,God arnt men such c**ts! I think many girls would agree with me here!I know you have been hurt, and you were happy on your own, but who is going to play the father role for your children?Speaking from experiance, (because my dad left when i was born, but he came back 5 years later) I think all children need a father figure, whether it beging their grandad, uncle, a friend of yours ect, So if you really think there is something special between you and this new man, its probably worth the risk.I know breakups and emotions are awful, but it is a little price to pay compared to your children growing up without a father.Now dont get me wrong, your kids are probably seeing their dad now, or might be old enough to understand, as i dont know their ages.Anyway on to you. Do you plan to stay single for the rest or your life to avoid a few tears? i know a few tears is a loose way to describe a break up but in the end dont they just turn to memories?I dont know about you, but i cant have enough memories, either good or bad, i like to look back on them and remember how stupid i was sometimes!I know your in a comfortable stage at the minute, but what happens when your children start bring back their boyfriends/girlfriends, will you be jelous of them? Or will you be overprotective of your children, i hope im not being to harsh, im just saying it the way i see it.I believe you should take the chance with this guy, he seems nice enough and caring, and you obviously get on well, and you have the feelings aswell for him.it doesnt kill to take a risk once in a while,and i believe it is all set out for you here, Go for girl and show em how strong we are!Dark_Storm11 xx
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