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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Am 17 and after the sexual attacks that have happened to me in my past, and the names my parents shouted and called me weni told them really upset me and i will never tell them anything again. i now have my father in particular but along with the rest of my family going on about my weight to me constentatly passing commetns wen i eat. making jestures and everything. and its all getting to me. am not eating because of it. i have started to self harm and it feels good at the time takes away the emotions but it really hurts afterwards and i want to stop. i need to deal with my past and then that will be one thing of my mind but i can't get a counciler without telling my parents and i never goign to them with anythign again. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Hey sweetie, Im the one who answered before,
and number one size 12-14 is average ignore them!!!!!
and secondly try this, i know this place has helped my friends out before and can also recommend other numbers as well:
www.youth2youth.co.uk
helpline:
The Telephone helpline is open every Monday and Thursday evening from 6.30pm to 9.30pm.
During this time helpline staff are waiting to take your call. Remember- all staff are aged between 16 and 21 years old. You will be talking to another young person, who has been trained in listening skills and is able to help you.
Helpline Telephone 020 8896 3675
OR
try childline
good luck love xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, am tryin to find a way to get counselling but am too scare of goin to drs and telling here in person. is there any phone line kind of things that maybe could help me?and i have confronted them with it making me upset and really self conscious but they just ignore me and say well u obviously think you need to loose weight as well then. am only size 12/14
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Honey, this isn't your fault. The way your parents acted was probably the only way they knew how to handle it.
But after that reaction Im not surprised you dont tell them anything anymore, I sure as hell wouldn't.
Okay, Firstly we need to get you talking to someone about the sexual attacks- if this isn't dealt with it can scar you badly for the rest of your life, its a horrible thing to have to go through and its not your fault.
You say that you can't get a councellor without parents permission- is that just a school or college rule because you can phone numbers, see councellors, and also talk to your gp in confidence without your parents permission.
Do you have a walk in centre near where u live? Mine's helped me loads of times, they aren't just for pregnancy tests and sti tests as most people assume.
If you see someone there or go to your doctor they can refer you to a councellor to get you the appropriate help WITHOUT notifying your parents.
Also why the hell would they say that about your weight, thats fucking ridiculous, no parent should ever mentally abuse and hurt their child like that.
You shouldnt stop eating because of what they say, maybe make sure you're eating healthily.
Ive been there and Ive done that at the same age with the cutting thing, please, please dont do it, i know it feels good at the time but its so bad, I have scars down my arm now which i hate, biggest regret ever, doing that to myself, At work i have to cover my arms, i hate showing them off and its an awful thing to have to live with.
It doesnt help anything and its not good. I should know.
I strongly suggest you have a chat to a councellor who should be able to help you, and also try talking to your parents- not to tell them anything, because after the first incident i sure as hell wouldnt, but tell them that them mentioning your weight isnt fair and that they dont listen to you- they may not realise they are hurting you.
Good luck sweetie
xxx
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