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writes:heya, im 21 and have slept with 60 boys, but only ever had 2 serious realtionships. i know i have to change my ways but i dont know how help !! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): You need to ask your self why are you sleeping with all these guys...is it the attention, or because you feel wanted attractive?do you feel bad about your self on the inside? are you looking for love? Be honest with yourself...i been down that road before...maybe not 60 guys but by age of 24 i had my share of men.. i realized that for one i needed to love myself 1st...respect myself my body. SEX IS NOT LOVE, ITS NOT RESPECT...sorry to sat but many men will sleep with just about anywomen thats willing to give it up. i would try not to have sex with men that you haven't been in a relationship with for more then 3 weeks..and if a guy knows he can sleep with you right away he will not want you as a gf/wife. SO rethink your life, find a hobby something you love to do, make the men work for sex, sleep with only men that a worthy of your body mind and soul. goodluck!
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reader, natasia +, writes (19 January 2012):
 Pretty simple. Completely give up all alcohol, and don't go out at night. Try that for 6 months and I bet you won't have slept with anyone for that time.
Seriously.
And if you keep sleeping with everyone, you will, without doubt, at some point get some awful disease, and you will also feel really bad about yourself. You are starting to feel bad now, so just stop this. Watch tv serials on iTunes instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): Have a little bit more self respect.
Ask yourself this question.... when you are meeting these guys...and there seems to be an attraction .... do you want to be their "right now girl" or someone they would "take home to Mom", someone they want to get to know better, build a relationship with, etc.?
Sleeping with 60 guys and your only 21? You are considered a right now girl and guys are fine with that, but you will not likely get any further then having a easy reputation. At your age I wouldn't get all that serious with anyone...have fun and enjoy this time of your life, but remember to be safe and always use protection...that's a lot of different men and you never know what kind of STD's these guys could have if they are having sex with many people too, which they likely are.... good luck.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 January 2012):
Well, if you want to change and still you can't. You have to get counseling. Some people (guys and girls) will be ok with your current life style. But obviously you aren't.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (19 January 2012):
You have to ask yourself why you so easily sleep with men - 60 is a lot, especially for your age.
My guess is insecurity or lack of self esteem is behind it over the doing it cos it's fun.
If so, you need to put some pride back into yourself. You are not a piece of meat and you should say no if it is offered to you.
You have to keep telling yourself you dont want to sleep with this bloke. Go on dates yes, put out no.
Be picky, you know what you want from a man. If he's not ticking the boxes, don't get involved.
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