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writes:Why do i love one of my closest friend of the same gender so much?This girl i have fallen in live with incredibly, everything about her is amazing, she got the most gorgeous eyes, shes perfect! I dont know what to do anymore, i hate looking at her knowing that she doesn't know how i feel, i dont know if i'm not straight but its something about her that sparkles me. I told her that i have feelings for someone else, that is the same gender, she doesn't know it is her though. I have given her so many clues like loads but do you think she may know its her but doesnt want to say anything or has she still go no clue? This has been overflowing my head for the past months. I even have dreams about her that we are togather, i dont know whats happening to me is this normal? I think about her all the time is so confusing me! I do know i love her though, help me?!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): go ahead and tell her! if she is really your friend and if shes not attracted to you, it wont affect your friendship. just hope for the best and hopefully it will come through for you.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Thank you guys, you have realky helped me to understand. However say i was going to tell her, how would i go about? X
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): I am 17. I had the same type of situation a few years back. She sounds like a very good person for someone to be with. It is completely normal to fall in love with someone of the same gender at your age because you are exploring your sexuality. I think that you should come out to her about that you like her. If you don't try, you will never know and will have to live with not telling her.
As for your friend, she might be bi or les. She may have an interest in you but is afraid of what you might say to her. Ask her to sleep over at your place or her place. Then try to watch a movie with her and try to cuddle with her. See what she does. After that is done, then tell how you feel about her and throw in those compliments that you wrote here.
Hope that this helped.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Its normal to have crushes on people of the same gender and not to consider yourself bisexual or gay and it is also perfectly ok to be bisexual or gay, but I wouldnt spend too much time worrying about labeling things, because honestly you are so young things will change and there is no need to pin yourself down with a label whilst you are still learning who you are.
Now about this girl, well i cant tell you if she had picked up your hints or not, but sometimes with situation like this hinting is not enough as people dont want to asume things and then be wrong if you see what i am saying. If you really want her to know how know how you feel i think you will have to just tell her, no hints.
Just please remember you may not get exactly what you want and only tell her if you are sure you can deal with the outcome, such as her not liking you back or it affecting your friendship, im not saying this will happen but you need to consider all the possiblities.
Hope this helps
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reader, MonicaBoo_  +, writes (8 January 2011):
Okay, well if your in love with your best friend you should juss fess up and tell her. You will never kno if she loves u back or have the some what feelings for you if you dont speak up. I myself am bi-sexual. I told my friend that i liked her and she was straight. But once i told her i felt releaved because even if she didnt like me back atleast i have a clear mind instead of just wondering what if? U kno so juss go for it. Be confident in yourself. And besides if it doesnt work out the way you would have liked it then just go on to the next one.
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reader, JESSYBABII +, writes (8 January 2011):
First of all dont be ashamend of yourself. You cant help who you love! Honestly if you love her that much then just simply tell her. If she takes it the wrong way then its her loss. Just get really close to her, hold her hand and kiss her. Tell her all the things you said about her in this question. But be proud of yourself.
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