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writes:Well. It´s not like a serious serious problem. But sometimes it helps to write things down to completely neutral people and what´s more, GET ANSWERS. So thank you, guys!So... there is this guy (of course) who I really like. He is funny, intelligent, kind, down-to-earth, not arrogant, good-looking, Spanish... but he is 15 years older than me (I´m 23, we met working together and hit it off). I´m living abroad and have had all kinds of contact with all kinds of ages so this initially doesn´t worry me. The problem is that, although I´m pretty certain he likes me too (we went riding on his motorbike today and sparks were definitely flying), for some reason things have never kicked off. I can´t quite understand why but I think he´s worried about making a first move and me thinking he´s some kind of massive pervert. But I don´t want to make the first move, being completely mistaken, and take the risk of him thinking I´m just some stupid girl with a crush.The other problem is not so much with age but differences in lifestyle. He´s a local boy whereas most of my friends and flatmates are from various places from all over the world. I´m not sure he could cope with my crazy international party-girl lifestyle (well, I say this, it´s actually a Friday night and I´m on the web...), and not sure my friends could accept him (although I´m pretty adaptable and reckon I could take whatever he could throw at me).So... it seems like there are a lot of problems before things start, and I´m not even sure how I would start them. But... he´s really sexy, and sweet, and interesting. So I´m stuck. Any help very much appreciated!
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 hi
i don't think the age problem or being from different countries is the the problem here, like you say, your lifestyles are very different and yes while he is exciting at the moment because he is new to you, do you think you would end up being bored with him? does he like to do any of the the same things that you do? i know all couples should have separate interests too but there has gotta be SOME common ground. you sound like you have misgivings abut his differences already so maybe he feels the doubts? could be lots and lots of reasons that he hasn't made a move on you, so you have a choice, you can either talk to him about this, or just remain close with him and see does he show any signs in the future of wanting more. if you don't wanna be the one that makes a move on him, just make your self welcoming to him with your body language and make sure you give him your attention as often as you can so he knows your very interested in him
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