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writes:Hello aunts. I'm not sure where to start really but basically i've been dating my boyfriend for around 3 months and we are yet to sleep together as i'm still a virgin and my boyfriend seems to understand that i'm worried about it but i know he is finding it hard. I thought i could give him the best christmas present ever and sleep with him on christmas eve, as he is sleeping at my flat and we are spending the day together. The only thing is that he has been with a lot of girls, and i'm worried i wont be as good as those girls. He says because he loves me it will be the best sex he's ever had but i want to make it blow his mind, so does any of the ladies on this site have any tips to help make it the perfect night. He has fingered me in the past but i really didnt like it and he has tried to have oral sex with me but i didnt like the idea of it. I perform sex acts on him but the thought of the actual act makes me shake with nerves. How can i keep my calm and also blow his mind.BTW i haven't slept with anyone till now because i always believed in waiting for the right guy and now i've found him.I'm 21 and he is nearly 25.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 December 2012):
 I hate to break it to you but the actual act of intercourse is not mind blowing in any way shape or form.
I have never really enjoyed it and since you don't enjoy fingering (as most men do it it simulates intercourse) and are put off by oral (that's really the mind blowing part to be honest in my book) I have no real advice for you.
IN addition, I find the whole set up of picking a date to have intercourse for the first time a bit contrived.
The other key is that you are physical with him (oral sex and other acts) and you are just a technical virgin in my opinion, you clearly are not ready for intercourse as you are still quite afraid of it.
Don't plan it.
Don't think about it.
also don't do it till you are ready.
When will you be ready? You will know it when it happens.
If he's not pushing you to do it, then relax and let nature take it's course.
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reader, Abella +, writes (7 December 2012):
 you would be far better to wait longer and allow things to move more slowly towards the big day.
Three months is way too impatient for this to happen.
If he is the ONE then he will happily wait much longer and value you all the more for waiting.
But most of all you are taking away a lot of the 'challenge' factor by offering up yourself to him on a platter.
Continue developing the rapport between the two of you.
Continue building the relationship between the two of you.
When you finally do consumate your relationship it will be all the sweeter if you allow a longer lead-up-to the big day.
Where he feels it was his idea, and that he convinced you. Three months is just the 'getting to know' each other time.
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reader, Rosax +, writes (7 December 2012):
Hello :) I personally don't think you should worry too much about the night (easier said than done). He said he loves you and feels as though that's enough to make the night perfect, and that's true!He knows that you are inexperienced, and with sex, practice makes things better.You learn as you go on, you won't be incredible on your first night (not trying to make you feel bad but everyone's first time isn't amazing) It may be painful and you may be nervous, but even then, the night will still be great for the both of you as you two will be performing this act togetherDon't feel as though you need to go the extra mile to make things perfect because he's already slept with girls before you, the fact that you two love each other and he's understood your situation, shows that that's enough.Just try and relax as much as you can, and by the sounds of it, he'll help you to relax too.Enjoy your night xx
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