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writes: I think my boyfriend may be gay or bisexual. I have found male pornography magazines. I am six months pregnant and due to marry this summer. Should I confront him? I love him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005): I am getting married 10/22/05 and found gay porn that my fiance had and was very concerned. He sworn he was just curious and that it was something he was extremely ashamed of. I still feel uncertain about our marriage, but he thinks I am silly. I hope everthing works out for you.
A reader, Shonna, writes (16 March 2005): Well, yes I would confront him if I were you. Only to make sure that there is nothing going on in that area,but really I doubt it.It could just be a fantasy, or he could just be curious, or want to expereiment before you get married.This is perfectly natural to be bi-curious,but if it's only that he will tell you and I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. GOOD LUCK
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A reader, Jamie, writes (16 March 2005): You need to ask yourself one question first; does he really love you? If he does, then he wouldn't marry you, especially if he was gay! Maybe he's bi, but that doesn't have to be a problem, because he's chosen to stay with you. Being bisexual doesn't mean that he can't stay with one person, male or female, so don't let that worry you! If you really think that confronting him will put your mind at ease, do it tactfully! Don't rush in and accuse him of anything, just let him know that you've found the magazines and you're confused. Hhopefully he won't think anything of it and will be able to put your mind at ease.I hope everything works out; good luck!
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A reader, A friend.., writes (16 March 2005): I would suggest speaking to your fiance about this. Perhaps there is nothing in it and he just fantasises about it. I think if we were all honest we have all thought about it at one time or another. OK, so we haven't gone out and bought magazines about the subject, but it is only human nature to be "curious". Perhaps he just bought them to see what all the fuss was about. Granted there may be a problem, but I don't think in this day and age where being Gay is more accepted than it used to be, that your fiance would want to marry you, settle down with you and have a baby with you if he wasn't straight. I wouldn't let this go on, as it will only stress you out and that won't do you or your baby any good, plus it will give him the chance if need be to talk about it.Best of Luck!! A friend.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (16 March 2005):
 I think you most cetainly need to talk to him. There could be an explanation for him having such magazines or he could indeed be hiding something from you. Whatever is the case, you need to find out and soon.This is the first thing you have to do before you can even consider what the future holds. It could be the case that he is gay but doesn't wish to face up to it or that he is curious and is uncertain of his own sexuality.Unless you talk to him, you aren't going to know. You are going to have to admit that you found these magazines. He may accuse you of snooping but say to him that rather you were in the wrong for snooping than in the dark about him and what he wants out of life. Say that you are worried about what this may mean for both of you. Ask him if he is sure of his sexuality and remind him of how much you love him and wish to support him.It is only when you find out the truth can you plan the future.I hope this helps.
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