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writes:Hey, i'm allie and a sophomore in highschool and so is the guy, jake. I just transfered to his highschool at the beginning of this year. So i haven't knows him too long. We run in different circles so we don't REALLY talk. I'm in the more popular clique...and he's in the shy but popular clique. ANyway, so when i first transferred he would openly stare at me...but when i would try to talk to him one on one he would find some excuse to leave. He'll come and sit next to me at lunch, but won't talk to me unless i start it...and he doesn't say that much even then. Then three months ago he started ignoring me, he stopped looking at me, and avoids me. Yesterday i found out he has had a girlfriend for three months...My friend talked to him, and he said: "Ya, can you tell Allie i have a girlfriend...im not sure thoe" then when my friend asked what he thought of me he said: "I cant really say....." so what does that mean...cuse i am completly confused...people are telling me to just leave him alone, but i honestly cant. Last friday i went to an awards banquet and he was there...it was black tie so people went all out. I caught him starring at me ALOT. But everytime i tried to talk to him he would dissapear. i don't know who his girlfriend is... he says he wants to keep it quiet, but i know he's not lying about having one. And i dont want to be the nasty girl who breaks two happy people up...but i've fallen pretty hard for this one. Should i just move on? Or should i just see what happens? Realy honest advice would be awesome right now...all my friends are telling me different things. thank you!!! SO SO much!""
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Hold your horses! You're still young and have several years ahead of you! You need to be able to comfortably be able to talk to each other before you have any chance of seriously beginning a relationship. For now, put aside your desire for him and make it your goal to become good friends. This will allow you to truly gauge where he is in his other relationship as well as build the foundation for any future relationship you might have with him. At worst, you've gained a friend. At best... :)
Good luck, high school relationships are always tricky!
Keep in mind that there ARE other boys out there; if another one comes along, don't get so hung up on this one. The right one will find you.
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