A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well yeah , like so many others on here I've fallen madly in love with a teacher.No I know , Not good.Please don't say it's a "crush" because yeah I'm young but I've already had a 2 year relationship which wasn't immature but actually a great lesson for me :)I'm leaving school next year to go onto college and uniHe's in his first year of teaching so he's young.We get on well and because it's not a big age gap we share the same interests... Music, Sport , TV just basically the normal things.We talk loads, and everyone says he flirts..but tbh I'm not silly and naive I know the chances of that being true are small.But in some ways he does seem to treat me different and in some cases I catch him staring over.I know the score , I'm not planning to tell him when I leave because I know that the chances are small still.Leaving school doesn't make you an adult , I know that.I've waited so time already and will wait how ever long it takes.The thing I want to ask is what do you think the chances are of leaving school , going to college and in that period between leaving school and finishing college I would have grown up . I know what I want to do but i would much closer to actually achieving it:)I would be going to Uni in his city anyway but what are the chances ( jus say I do still love him )of meeting up with him and him not seeing me as an ex-student?He's said a million times before that he can talk to us ( stduents ) like mates because of the age difference and he can relate to us in some ways teachers cant, which is in some ways a onus for teacher because you can earn more respect and it's easier to control the class and stuff.Well thanks - I know it's a essay :| Sorry about that:PIt's just been on my mind for ages.I'd appreciate any replyss even if they are harsh :Pxxxxx
View related questions:
flirt, immature, my teacher, period, std Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): Hi, first off, congratulations on going to Uni next year.
Please don't be offended, but I think you do actually have a crush on this teacher. You are not in love with him, that only happens after you get to know each other on an intimate level, and the infatuation stage is over....you are very infatuated with him for all the reasons that you mention here. Sometimes a crush serves the purpose of distracting us or relieving nervousness and stress about some upcoming events, such as graduatiing high school and leaving to go to university, this is both exciting and scarey at the same time.
This teacher may be young, and not that much older than you, but if he is to be a professional, he has to keep his boundaries between himself and his students, it is a gross misuse of power for him to ever date you.
I think you will come to realize that you are not grown up because you are going to Uni, growing up takes a long time and many of us are in our 40's before we really are grown up and know what we want and who we really are....
I also think that once you start school, you will forget about him and the intense feelings of infatuation will subside. You will have the opportunity to meet many young men and women, and you will enjoy the freedom to date whom ever you choose and who chooses you. Try to remember though that you are there to get and education, not to find a man, they are just icing on the cake, your first priority is you, and what you are there to accomplish.
Good Luck to you.
A
male
reader, DV1  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 It's a normal thing to fall for a teacher. The student teachers coming to our school really aren't that much older than us, therefore making it hard not to. If you want to express interest in them, wait until their time student teaching is up, because otherwise, you could harm their career and well-being.
DV1
...............................
|
