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female
age
36-40,
*rincess_grace
writes:I met a fantastic foreign guy randomly on a night out when drinking with my work mates. He was by himself at a bus stop, and I started talking to him. We found out we had heaps in common, like music, favourite literature, travel, sense of humour etc etc, and I told him to come along with us, and he followed.Eventually he explained that he has just moved from overseas to Australia to live with his Australian girlfriend. I said that's okay, we're just going to be great friends, I can tell. We chatted endlessly, and had a fantastic, spontaneous night, eventually loosing our friends. Then, incredibly intoxicated, I kissed him, and then we made out (amazing amazing). And I know I shouldn't have done that, but it happened.He messaged me a couple of days later saying that it was an interesting night, asking if I got home safely, and that his girlfriend might read his messages so keep it clean.I replied back, however, this message didn't send (often happens with my phone), so I recieved no answer until a week later, when he sent me a message saying that it's a pity that we can't be "great friends" with the silent treatment. He said that perhaps it was for the best, and au revoir. I messaged back, no response, so I called him, and found out he hadn't recieved any of my messages. So he suggested that me meet up some time.I got my phone fixed and we messaged occassionally, but trying to avoid it because friends had warned me against the whole situation. Also, he said that he had told his gf that we had met and were friends.He suggested we meet up Sunday night, I said I can't because my mum is in town, but if it's an early night let's meet up after. I called that night and we organized for him to come over to my suburb to have a drink, which he did (although he was a little hesitant at first), we had a fantastic conversationover cocktails, sparks all the time, and then we headed back to my house to chill. I also found out that he had been dating his girlfriend for 2 years, and that they had been apart for 6 months while he got his VISA together -- apparently he took his time with it though. I also found out that we have a mutual friend which makes this all risky i suppose.We chatted, listened to music, and on the bed I asked him to kiss me. He politely declined. He said that we need to figure out the situation, and suggested that we should either be friends, or have just a purely physical relationship. Grrr *heartbreak*. I said I didn't want to just have a physical relationship, it's not my style. We left it at that.He ended up staying over, and as we drifted off to sleep (spooning), we started fooling around (he initiated it, and I was reluctant at first, but was swept off my feet, and we didn't go the full way). Amazing amazing, he's the best kiss I've ever had, and so tender haha!Anyway, he left in the morning, I went to work, feeling happy but depressed at the same time. I really feel low now. I know I'm a bad person for doing what I've done, it's out of line, but I really like this guy, and I connect with him so well, a rare thing for me.I would love some advice. Where to now? Should I not see him anymore at all? Should we just become friends? Should I insist that he moves on from his gf (haha)? Please help!
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (6 August 2009):
 you seem a little caught up. This guy seems like bad news hes moving all the way to Aussie land to be with his GF yet hes making out with you. Something doesnt seem rte here he could be lying about the gf all together. he wants to be friends or have a purely physical relationship wow this guy is slick he knows your into him, no guy wants to be just friends he wants to get get in your pants but im guessing he doesnt want a gf so he can explore the land down under in more depth or he actually has a girl there either way your being set up for heartbreak outback style.I suggest not to get to serious with this guy, hes exotic and enchanting sure but so are some deadly poisons.to spare your heart keep him at a distance
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