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writes:My relationship has finally backed me into a corner...I realized that I'm falling in love with my girlfriend. I've tried so hard not, because I doubted she could ever feel the same way about me, but I can't fight it anymore...she's the greatest girl I know and she's stealing more and more of my heart each day. I don't know what to do. If I tell her she may reject me and end the best relationship I've ever had, but if I don't I'm just going to on eating away at myself...someone please tell me a way to get through this without losing her...I love this girl so much... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Firstly, I don't think she would still be your girlfriend if she knew things weren't progressing or if she didn't love you. So don't think that she will never feel the same! I think it partly depends on how long you've been together and how good your relationship is as a whole.
Why try and fight your feelings for her? She's your girlfriend and I'm sure she is dying for you to tell her you love her! She may not have said it yet because she's thinking what you're thinking, but as I said this is somewhat to do with how long you have been together for. If it's early days then perhaps you could hold off a little longer before telling her.
If everything's going great in your relationship and you have been together for a reasonable amount of time, then tell her! I'm VERY certain that she will appreciate what you say, and will MORE than likely say it back. And if she doesn't, then she won't reject you, it just means she isn't ready to say it back.
So calm down and deep breaths. Plan a special night in, and when the moment is right, tell her how you feel. I think it will work out fine, and then you can concentrate on having fun! :)
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Why would you enter a relationship if you don't want to love someone? Surely out of your relationship you'd want to grow to love each other?
Maybe she will reject it, maybe she won't. But maybe instead of telling her outright, you could make little romantic gestures instead - like little pressies, cute outings together, etc. which SHOW how you feel and is a much more subtle approach.
...And then maybe in time it will just feel right to tell her how much you love her. Or maybe she'll get there first?!
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