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writes: Hi,Can anyone offer me any advice on how to keep my emotions at bay? Tonight I am going to tell my ex (who I have been seeing occasionally over the last 3 months)that I feel too much for him to keep seeing him unless he wants to seriously work at a relationship with me. I have asked him what he wants from me before, and he says he wants to try to be a better boyfriend, but then i dont see him for weeks (due to work) and i just dont know if he really wants me.I have decided that it hurts me too much to continue with how it is and that I dont want to be used. So i am going to tell him that i like him too much for that and if he wants to be with me he has to be with me properly.I have prepared myself for the worst, and it will absolutely break my heart (again), but i really dont want to cry in front of him. Please, how can i say what I have to say without crying? do you think i should maybe just go and see him and leave him with a letter saying it?I am so scared that this will be the last time i will ever see him.
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reader, shania  +, writes (15 October 2006):
 It sounds to me like you are having serious feelings for him but as your boyfriend has work commitments or excuses he is not giving you the time or energy that you would like.You said he was your ex so why are you still seeing him? I would of thought that 3 months into the relationship it would still be fresh and exciting but instead its going pear shaped,not a very good sign.If i was you i would lay all my cards on the table and ask your boyfriend what he wants out of this relationship? I feel he just wants it nice and casual without the heaviness.If you feel frustrated and fed up that your fella cant give you more then call it a day...if you cry when you tell him then so be it,just be strong and tell him clearly how you feel.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006): as the song goes 'when loves hurts..it wont work...' maybe u need a break from each other..to figure out what u both want..in a way u wont hav to end it..n u can both work at it? n if u see any improvment on both sides..u can take it further again..sumtimes people forget to enjoy each others personalites...and companionship..n we start focusing on what the other ones flaws are..in this way u can learn to ovacum any flaws..and enjoy each others company again....go on dates n stufff..try not to be too full on..suggest this too him..afta all its only a 3 month yung relationship! freind x
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