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writes:I want to break up with my two-month-old boyfriend because I realised I do not like him the way I thought I did. He was diagnosed TB a week ago and was checked into the hospital. I didn't want to visit him at all not because I was afraid I'd catch the disease but I really didn't want to spend my time traveling for 30minutes to the hospital to see him. Well, that was partly due to my upcoming finals but my reluctance rang an alarm. I took some time to reflect on us and I feel he doesn't value me for who I am and is only interested in my looks. I also think he is sometimes very immature but I can't really blame him since he is one year younger than me. However, I don't want to continue this because I don't see us having a future as I do not plan to marry him because we share different religions that neither of us plan to change for each other, which I think we really shouldn't. The bigger issue is, he doesn't see a problem in us having the differences, which is why I think he is not being very mature. But I really don't know if I should break up with him now because we will still be in the same class for the next year and we share the same friends in school. It would be extremely awkward with our common friends and difficult to explain to anyone that we're broken up. It is also a torture to have to face him every day after that and it is not possible for us to switch class or college. Please help. I'm constantly irritated whenever I think of this problem.P. S. I'm 21 years old this year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust want to let you know your answer comforts me a lot. Thank you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 November 2015):
 I wouldn't even call him boyfriend. A boyfriend is someone you see potential future with. It's taken you 2 months to realize you can't continue, so there's no shame and there shouldn't be difficulty explaining this. Your reasons for ending it make a lot of sense.
If he doesn't care about differences, that's because he's not thinking of long term, just immediate gratification. When you see him in class you can still politely say hi and try not to overthink. It's not as a big deal you made it out to be.
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