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writes: In 7th grade popular 9th grade boys mooed at me (like a cow to point out i was fat) i was 5'10 and 195 pounds. I ignored it at the time and it didn't bother me now looking back at the pictures i see what they were mooing about , they apologized about 3 months ago well 2 of them did (there were 5) that helped but also brought back those feelings now I'm in 9th grade I'm 5'11 and 173-175 pounds my teachers pointed out I've lost some weight now you'd think I'd be happy to hear that but I'm not now i obsess over if i gain a pound or if i will it's tearing me apart high school is coming up and I'm really nervous about if the same thing will happen again. i just want to be invisible but it's pretty hard being this tall, i just don't know how to stop obsessing over this i just don't want to be mad fun of again i really don't know if i can take it this time I've been told I'm fat and ugly my whole life by my siblings mostly but when other people said it specially very popular males it hurt to know it was true , how can i get past this and not be so nervous for high school?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all so much for your input i will do the things you suggested, and if does happen in high school I'll try my best not to let it get to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): It sounds like you have already lost a bunch of weight. What you need to do is keep at it this summer. Exercise and eat right and if you lose another 15 pounds you will be looking good. At your height 160lbs is probably the perfect size. And if you're tone than you will look even better. Maybe join a sport. Soccer, track, swimming...that will really help keep you in shape. Ignore stupid kids that are so insecure about themselves they have to pick on someone else. High school doesn't last long and before you know it, it will be over and you never have to see them again. Don't show any reaction to them being mean. Ignore it and keep moving on they will get bored. Trust me stick with your friends and screw everyone else. Your better than them. Love yourself. Don't let stupid kids get you down its sooooo not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): I definetly don't miss junior high or high school and for this very reason, teenagers can be so cruel, especially at such a crucial time in a persons life.
YOu hit puberty and it's awkward and all of your peers pick on you and degrade you because you don't eat like a bird and have huge boobs.
Typically girls mature faster than boys and I didn't lose my "baby fat" until I was 16 years old and then people had no idea who I was because I looked so different. The boys in high school should "sprout" soon and leave you alone.
Have you talked to your parents about your struggle with your self image? Perhaps counseling if you feel the need to do that.
Bottom line. You matured faster, they are adolescent males and are naturally stupid and therefore don't think before they speak.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 It sounds like it is due time you have a proper chat with your parents about being bullied by your siblings. Or talk to your siblings, stand up for yourself and tell them to stop calling you names. Why should you have to be put through being bullied at your own home, especially when you deal with name calling at school as well.
It is also an option to speak to your teachers about what has occurred. If the teachers are doing their job right, as they should, they will take the boys aside who offended you and have the apologize. It's good that at least two of them did by themselves, but if it happens again you might want to contact a teacher about it before things escalate or continue.
When the two boys did apologize you should know that that means something. It means that they know what they did was wrong. Most likely the other boys know as well, but they lack the courage and nobility to own up to it. They are callow. But the apologies you got means that they were not justified in calling you names or making fun of you, which means that when you look back at pictures you should NOT be seeing any reasons for why they did it. They did it without purpose or reason, and hence they apologized afterwards. Don't justify their behaviour with "I can see why they would say that".
People get picked at for any number of reason. It doesn't mean they are ugly or that anything is wrong with them. You know yourself if you should lose weight or not. I won't sugar coat it, you would benefit from losing weight, unless this is your body type and you are healthy. Let being healthy be your primary goal.
At high school you will meet many new people as well. You won't be hanging around the same old same old, or at least typically you meet a whole new group of people when you change schools, from junior high to high school, and even more new people in college or university. As the people around you change, so might your own perception of yourself.
I will add this, if it helps any, that I got picked at for around a year when I was your age, 13-14. I was called names even earlier too, from around 6-8 the girls in the locker room sometimes called me the skeleton. I got the exact opposite from you, when I was 13-14 people thought I was anorexic. I was a loner in addition to being somewhat poor, couldn't afford the nice clothes everyone else were wearing. I was easily singled out if you know. I ended up in fights with a group of guys, where they tried to slam me in the ground, or push me over. They'd steal my bus card, try to trip me if I walked by, not let me enter the classroom, spit at me. Yell into my ear, stand on my desk, all sorts of annoying things.
Lucky me being an introvert in a class of my own I didn't care about it and it didn't ruin my confidence. But I am saying this to show you that there really is no reason for why anyone would pick on you. People who get picked on look perfectly normal too, they aren't ugly even if they get called ugly, or get names called after them. It's just something they say! It isn't true!
That being said, one of the boys in that group contacted the teacher and told her what had been going on, clearly having a guilty conscience. The teacher brought them all in and set them straight, and they didn't go near me after that.
Contacting their parents should also help.
When I started high school it was a breath of fresh air to have new people around, and I was able to find friends. Some of the boys who used to pick on me attended the same school, but they left me alone and I wasn't bothered at all.
I'm 175 cm, so that is about 5,74 feet. You're not that tall, and when the boys get into their growing spurts they will outgrow you fast.
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