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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm looking for someone to help me through this stressful period in my life. I got out of a relationship a couple months ago, we dated for a good eight months. I loved him. I gave him my virginity. We went there hell and back together. Breaking up was one of the hardest things I ever had to go through, a couple weeks ago, should of been our one year. I was quite upset on that day, but the next day, everything was fine again. I acted like it didn't phase me. He has found someone else, someone better. He doesn't think of me, I bet he didn't even think of me on that day either.I won't lie, I've had a good share of hooks up the past couple of months, but I always feel as if something is missing. I am only fifteen years old, I experience the common things all teenagers go through, Falling while walking up the door step, cause I was to drunk to walk. Being so drugged up, I felt like I was about to die, all the boys and the break ups, the friends and the drama. I've been there it all. I am searching for something real now.Early september, I got jumped by a girl who thought I wanted to sleep with her boyfriend. It was a tough thing for me to go through, my face was swollen like a balloon, funny thing is, a couple days later I was joking about it. I wouldn't let anyone step near when I got jumped, and would say, "this is the scene of the crime" and just laugh about it. I guess that's just the way I am.I feel as if something will always be missing in my life. I feel as if when something goes right, it's not long before something goes wrong, my life is always so complicated. I think god hates me or something. I am happy, but I am never TRULY happy.I like a boy, and I think he likes me, but that will probably get messed up somehow to. I feel like I have lost faith in everything. Can someone give me some words of widsom and advice to help me through this upsetting time in my life. Will I ever be happy again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Dear Poster
I have empathy with you; as a young teenage girl you surely have had some sad experiences.
It seems as if the drinking, the drugs and the boys have caused you lots of pain and hurt; however,you seem a very strong person.
You feel an emptiness inside you and are looking for true happiness, but you will not find that with drugs, drinking and boys.
True happiness starts within yourself; don't lose faith in yourself; you can make your life better; nobody else can do it for you;
I suggest you change your lifestyle and if need be your friends.
Get involved with community work, start supporting a charity group or get involved with a local anti drug organization. You will find it very rewarding and fulfilling; you will then soon realize that there is other types of joy; you will meet new friends and you will change your values in life; you will feel less empty inside and you will start to appreciate the fulfillment and joy of helping others.
You can make a difference in your own life and in the lives of so many others (that might be feeling just like you).
Be grateful for what you have, appreciate being healthy and alive; learn from your mistakes and reach out to others who might be less fortunate and less strong then you are.
You have the ability to make a change in your life and lifestyle;
Concentrate and focus on the better things in life and start a new life towards a better future.
Don't be a victim of negative thoughts, but rather a master of your own mind.
Let go of the past behavior,habbits and lifestyle; YOUR MIND IS A TOOL YOU CAN CHOOSE TO USE ANY WAY YOU WISH;
Should you want to start making those changes in your life;
repeat this a few times everyday:
I release my past patterns they have no power over me; I release all resistance; they have no power over me;
I approve of myself and the way I am changing;
I am doing the best I can; each day gets easier; I rejoice in the changing of my life; today is a wonderful day; I choose to make it so.
If you need to talk or want some more assistance, you are welcome to contact me by PM.
Don't delay; start with your new life today.
YOU can CHANGE your life.
Lots of hugs and SMILES.
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