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writes: well ive been seein this person for like 2 months n at the start everythin was great i couldnt of wished to be happier but recentl like 3 weeks ago he's been distant from me n i was askin him if everythin was ok n he was sayin everythins kool but i new it wasnt coz he never phoned or text me as before he text me everyday.not this tuesday gone but the tuesday before i found out i was pregnant it wasnt planned he said hes gonna be there n what not but he isnt happy as he didint want kids, then i phoned him tuesday gone askin him what really is wrong n he told me the truth he said im pushin him away with my attitude n quite a few people have said i have got an attitude but i cant see it n i dont want an attitude especially towards him coz i really like him. but anyways he said he was gonna let me know later that day what hes decided about us but he didnt so i text him sayin how much i really like him n how im willin to change so things can work with us but i never got a reply.then i tex him again wednesday kinda sayin the same thing never got no reply i left him on thursday as i dont wanna bug him but i tex him today sayin can you just let me know plz n i miss yu loads but he hasnt replied yet i tried to phone him but he didnt pick up.what am i to do coz i really like him n want things to work its really gettin me down n i dont need it coz im pregnant n feel sick but i really really miss him help plz x
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reader, bellasmommy +, writes (27 July 2008):
hunny, its clear he doesnt wanna be with you. It probably has something to do with your attitude AND something to do with you being pregnant. Alot of guys get upset when their girlfriends get pregnant.. especially if its unplanned.. i do suggest you try calling him in a week or 2, and if still no answer, you try to go to his place and talk to him because he needs to be involved with you in some way since your pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): well congratulations on ur pregnancy. i have read lots of relationship advice,on men, things like catch him keep him that sort of thing and i have read about men pulling away from women. i have read that the more you try to get closer the more they try to pull away. well maybe if you stopped txting, he knows you care and stuff so he knows where you are if he wants you. maybe aswell he's feeling freaked out a little by the pregnancy, so he is distancing him self to run away from it, even it it selfish and unfair on ur feelings.
i think that jst maybe he might just be saying that you have an attiude problem just so he dsnt have to see you, an excuse. honestly i really think that you have done all that you can in telling him how you feel. i think now that you should let him come to you, even if it's hurting you on the inside. and if he likes you enought then he will come in the end anyway, if he dosent like you enougth to come, then is he really worth you? well my answer to that is not at all, i think if it was me then if someone didnt want me enought to come and get me then they are only treating me like a second best and i would want to be treated like a qween. on the other hand he might just need space, it was probably abit of a shock to the sistom for him. honestly if a man wants space then it's really best to give it them, it's just a man thing. you should just let him be now for a wile, and when he has come to his sensies he will soon come running back realizing what hes missing, and thats you, but if he dosent then how much can he really care about you,not enought, and not enougth is not good enougth for you, since you are the best person you know just like me im the best person i know. well good luck, i hope all works out well for you.
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