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writes:Hiyet again I have been rejected. I don't know how much more rejection I can take anymore.I don't want to spend the rest of my life on my own but I'm so hurt at the moment.Last year my long term live in partner dumped me for someone he worked with.traumatic the way he handled it too, using ways to get me out of our home.A few months ago i joined some dating sites.I have met up with quite a few men (drink dates ) but some of the men i liked alot...only for them to not want me.1 chased me - then said not ready.1 drove miles to visit me , a few times - then put a new picture of himself (that I took of him) on the dating site. Then got angry when I asked him why.Afew weeks later he got in touch saying he missed me and could we start again - I said yes, only for him to change his mind the very next day.The most recent, I knew from around 8 years ago , who got in touch again this year. We went walking together a couple of times, and there were big gaps between contact.Last week he texted me saying, was i interested in him and would i go walking again that weekend.We met up, had a lovely day, he even held my hand and we had a kiss and cuddle and he said he couldn't wait until the next time.This morning 5 days later- texted me saying he's not ready to see anyone and can't sleep.I had hoped because we had walked alot of hours and knew each other he could have been serious.and he initiated the contact and said i was someoene he could see.But now, it seems to me, no man wants anything to do with me.I don't come on heavy with them and try to be cool but not too cool. Then they reject me before they really get to know me and vice versa, but I get my hopes up.I am crying again, because to be rejected around 5 times over 10/12 months hurts.What's wrong with me?Why can't someone just want to be with me for company. walking, a few drinks, ? I don't want anyone living with me again
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hi,
don't give up that's my advice. The modern dating world unfortunately is full of freaks and losers who populate the electronic dating world messing with people with good intentions heads. They convince themselves they can commit where in reality they should be locked up in a padded cell until they can learn to behave like human beings .
Just say to yourself, you are the one who is ready to give love and be loved, these morons are the ones who are missing out. The worst thing you can do is give up.
Keep trying, I'm sure the right guy is waiting for you. Go out and treat yourself and say to yourself you are special and if these bozos cant accept that then its their loss.
All the best buddy
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