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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody! This year of my life has really been full of crazy things, but the saddest thing about it is that my girlfriend I've had for the longest time finally broke up with me. Yes, it does make me sad, but seeing as we're still really close friends, I've gotten over her and am moving on. The problem is, I am very awkward around people I haven't met before, and I really need help with my problem. I haven't talked to much single women when I was with my ex, but now since we are no longer together, I want to get back into the dating scene. I don't know where to start, who to look for, or even what to do when I've found "the one". Please! anybody! help me get over my social awkwardness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Baby steps! Don't take it too seriously at first, have fun, laugh, keep conversation light. Don't be drunk (most men feel it gives them the confidence to approach a women...big no no!)Just be yourself. We appreciate that much more.Don't expect your date to fit into the role of your ex. Also don't talk about your ex, past relationships,until you get to know eachother.Also don't judge woman by your ex's standards, we are not all the same. Try to relax and be yourself and don't look for faults to early on. Have fun,be positive and you will attract positive peopleGood Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Tell the person you're dating that it's your first time back in the dating pool. That way they don't confuse any awkwardness on your part as you being uninterested in them.
You don't have to explain your whole history with your ex, but you should give her a sense where you're coming from.
Also, don't date until you're absolutedly and completely over her...nobody wants to be somebody's rebound.
Good luck!
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