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writes:I have been in a relationship for about 2 years with my boyfriend, i love him more then anything in the world, but i enjoy people flirting with me. I don't really do it back, and if i do it's only little comments every known and then, nothing heavy. I have never ever cheated on him, and don't intend to.But certain people will flirt with me and i'll love it, because my boyfriend often denies me sex (i have a higher labido then him) I am only young, I'm 16(my boyfriend is 19), and i have no doubt that i am in love with him, but it's almost as if i am getting bored of him, because i enjoy boys flirting with me. I never flirt in college and i have never ever hurt him, but when people do, i can't help but feel really loved and i just want to kiss the person who's flirting with me as an urge. i never want to do anything else, no relationships, nothing sexual, i just want to kiss them. It never happens, as i never meet up with them outside of college, i am loyal enough not to.Sometimes i just feel like i'm missing out on my teenage years, i've been with him since i was 14, i love him to bits and i never want to leave him. Sometimes i just think to myself how much i wish i'd met him later on in my life so that i could settle down a bit more and have my little romances, like my bit of fun. But saying that, i'm glad i've met him.Is it bad that i want to do these things? I know that i never would, so please don't say that at some point i will, because it will never happen. I want to see some light on my feelings and ask how i can make this better, and your overall opintion on it. P.S. I still spend time with my friends and stuff, it isn't all about him :)thankyou.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 I'm 51 and I'm a huge flirt. That's how I ended up with my boyfriend. I was married and flirting... (with permission)
now I'm with my man and I still flirt and i asked him "does it bother you that I flirt?" and he laughed. I flirt like I breathe.... constantly...
he told me he does not mind my flirting because he trusts me and knows me and knows if someone mistinterprets my flirtations that I will put them in their place.
The issue is that I don't feel like I'm missing anything and I don't feel like my life is passing me by...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): You're very young, and it really doesn't suprise me that you feel this way - as you said, you just feel like you've missed out on your little romances, and you sometimes wish you hadn't met him till you were older?Well I think there's a couple of ways you could go about this. Firstly, if you really feel like you're missing out in life this will probably, and obviously already is starting to make you regret the relationship, maybe not regret, but despise it, it's pulling you down and holding you back. So if you want the single life, then you could end things with him, but by the sounds of all your reasoning, you don't want to, you just feel guilty that you enjoy guys flirting with you. Which is completely normal, girls love attention.But, then you have this amazing guy in front of you, who you two obviously have a great connection, you're only sixteen so I wouldn't worry too much about the sex drive, just give that a bit of time, the longer you stick with this boy at a young age probably the harder it will be to get out in the future, or like it happens mostly, you two may grow apart, who knows, you don't know, so if you love him, and he's a great guy, I would just stick with him if you're happy with him, if you're going to blame the relationship from making you miss out on the single life - then maybe you're not ready for a serious relationship.Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys!
I just feel so bad when i have just a little bit of a flirt. I always think to myseld 'how would i feel if i found out he was doing the same'? And i makes me feel terrible :/
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 No there is nothing wrong with the way that you feel, at the end of the day everybody loves receiving attention so when these guys flirt with you off course it is going to make you feel good. There is no harm in innocent flirting as long as it doesn't go any further. You trust yourself enough to not take it any further so just enjoy it.
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