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writes: I am 16 right now and I have my own car, OK. Well I have band class and our band teacher asked me if I would come to his house after school for something. Well I trusted him because he is a family friend. Anyways I drove over to his house the other day and well we were talking and he asked me if we could just keep it between us, can we go out? I said I dont know. I will think about it. It was the weekend and my parents were gone so I had nothing to do as he knew. So he asked me if I wanted to stay at his house that night and talk about it. I said OK since I know him a little more than usual. Well we went to get something to eat and we were watching TV, sitting real close together and he had his arm around me. I was like OK, well he is showing me he can be a good boy friend. After while he asked me if I would have sex with him. I was stupid and said yes. I did have sex with him but he used protection. But now I told him that we could go out secretly and now he wants to have sex almost every night. What should I do? I don't hate it but I get tired of him asking. I am a percussion player in our band class so he will come up behind me and slap my a** while during class. So what do you think? Should I keep going out with him or should I call it quits?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): Hes just using you, just end it with him tell your parents, he could even be doing the same thing to other students.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Ok he is taking advantage of you and he is out of order asking you to have sex every night, talk to him or end it but dont feel pressured to do anyfing with him you dont want to x good luck
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reader, Pinkbees09  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 I think he;s taking advantage of you and you should tell your parents and make him get arrested. You will end up hurt in the end and he shouldn't be slapping you on the a$$ at all.
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 As much as i love my teacher and wouold love for something to happen... i wouldnt want what u have just told me to happen. Ur a person not sum object that can be used when he is bored or whatever, he needs to love you as a person or respect you as a person rather than an object...
I dont know if i would call it quits as i would be a hypercrite cause i dont know exactly what i would do in that suitation, but i do know i would talk to him and tell him what u want and how u really feel... however it is ilegal so yeah maybe for your own sake and his too use could hold it off til u leave skl?
sorry if my advice has bn rubbish!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): Honey you may be 16, and legally old enough to have sex, but your band teacher is definatly taking advantage of the teacher/pupil relationship here, not to mention the relationship he has with your parents. Your parents would be correct to think he has betrayed your family trust. Older men especially men in important position such as your teachers can be very persuasive, so understand even though you made a decision and agreed to sex with him, he as well out of line for asking you.I am in doubt of his sincerity as he wants to see you secretly, if he had true feelings for you he would probably want to see you without sex, wait until you were ready to discuss the option of sex, and be open about his feelings with everybody, not shroud your relationship in secrecy.I wouldnt be suprised if you weren't the first girl in this position. If you are comfortable with the situation, or feel he is just a time pass, i urge you to be careful and take the proper procautions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): it sounds to me that you dont realy like this guy as much as he likes you, you should be pleased a guy your seeing wants to see you alot but the fact your not that keen makes me think you want out.if thats the case end it straight away before he gets even keener
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Your band teacher is a perverted man I am sorry to say that, but what right has he got having sexual relations with a minor like yourself? Its not right AT ALL. I agree with everyone on this page. This must stop, he is using you and he is getting his pleasure every night and he is happy but is illegal and immoral and out of order. BREAK IT OFF AND DO IT FAST. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): This guy is using you for sex with a hot young girl. Surely you have more self respect than that? He's USING you. Break it off, and fast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): If you do not report this teacher's sexual abuse of you to the authorities, you are an enabler. Even if you desired having sex with him as much as he desires having it with you (and you have stated that you do not), please think of the other students whom this teacher will exploit long after he's finished exploiting you. Think of those other students (and maybe even yourself), and then report your teacher's actions to the proper authorities (trusted family members, professionals such as your school administrators, and the police or the district or states attorney). His actions are criminal. Be enough of an adult to give the law its chance to prevent further child abuse by this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Your band teacher is trolling for sexual favors from his female students. He's in a position of trust and he's managed to manipulate you, through sexual coercion. Stop him dead in his tracks before it continues. Someone needs to know what he has done. Your school principal and your parents should be told, so he doesn't contine to do this to other females. This teacher is not allowing his career ethics and his sound judgement to kick in. I think you are questioning his low, slimey character and his poor behaviours. It is important to note that you are not at fault. He has coerced you into having sex with him and that is generally more about the his own perversions, his own emotional problems, his immaturity and his power over you, rather than the sex. He's using you, dear. This is just about his selfish needs fulfilled-not you. This is truely sexual abuse of the most evil kind. I am so sorry this has happened to you, dear. It sounds like you went into this sex act with him while experiencing emotional numbness. How sad. And now he takes it further by demanding more sexual favors and slapping your ass in class. This man seems not only morally empty but he stupidly bold and it will be his downfall. When a young female student is 'infatuated' with her teacher (which does happen), it's the responsibility of that teacher to help, guide, develop and teach the youth, they are educating. They aren't supposed to be having sex with them. There are wonderful teacher's out there who do understand the impact of being "formidable, responsible role-model' but your band teacher does not fathom this. What he did to you was a crime..this is so wrong so please do the right thing...say NO to him and report him to the authorities, before he does the same to some other poor girl.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Okay, this will be a short answer.
Teacher + student = healthy, learning environment.
Teacher + student + sex = ILLEGAL!
End this right now, no good whatsoever can come from this. I think you already know in your heart that this isn't the right thing to do, so end it TODAY. You are only 16 years old with a whole life time of love and sex ahead of you, don't throw your life away on this illegal 'relationship'. He could get into soooo much trouble for this, as could you.
Do the right thing STOP IT RIGHT NOW. xxx
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 I'm going to refrain from mentioning too much the fact that he's broken an ethical rule, and that he's definitely taking advantage of the teacher-student relationship, because I'm going to assume you already know those things. But he has, and he is, and that's revolting.
The point I want you to think about is that you've haven't thought much about your own feelings in this. You went over to his place, you were seduced, even though you didn't really want to do it, you continue to have sex with him even when you don't much care for it, and you're not thrilled with him groping you in class -- I can understand that!
So, if he was Just A Guy, and not a teacher, what would you do? Hopefully, you have enough self-respect to say you'd break up with any other person who treated you this shabbily!
Tell this perve that you're not interested any more from right now. Nobody should put up with this sort of disrespect! If he tries to pressure you at all, remind him that his career is on the line if you go public.
Please stop seeing him as a girlfriend and a lover. He's taking terrible advantage of you, and you're getting nothing in return!
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