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writes:i have been engaged for 4 1/2 yrs to a great man. Suddenly he wants to break it off says its not working but loves me and tells me every day. i am heart broken and could never imagine being with anyone else. i talk about us everyday and cry and hope for the best. help
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Hi,
Do you live together and is he leaving you?. Its very sad when one person feels differently to there partner, but the cold fact is, you cannot force him to stay engaged if thats not what he wants.
He probably does love you in his own way, but feels that is not enough. And a least he has the desency to tell you the truth. A lot of men would just find another girl then leave.
Nothing that anyone says will make you feel better at the moment, but in time you will get over it, and we are all here if you need to talk.
Whatever you do, dont blame yourself. When my Husband left me for another girl, I wanted to die. I had two small kids and I am ashamed to say I lost 2 stone within weeks, got drunk one night and cut my wrists.
Thank god my mum and dad stood by me and made me get my act together. But for ages I blamed myself, I thought I was a lousy mum or wife, and could not get it through my head it wasnt my fault.
You may not see yourself with another man yet, but in time you will. And if your lucky he will be better than this one. In fact I am sure he will be.
Take care, and go and stay with family or mates just dont be on your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Buy a book called Love Must Be Tough (sorry I keep banging on about this). Look it up online (ebay etc). It will tell you exactly what to do. Begging and pleading will not make him love you enough but if there is any chance of rescuing the relationship this book will tell you how. It is not gimmicky, just explains how he may be thinking and the best way you can respond. Good luck.
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