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*atti
writes:Hi, I have recently been dumped, we were going out for a month after knowing each other for over 4 months. It was all going really well until suddenly she started having doubts, but not sharing them with me, just throught her bulletins in myspace. she did it over msn because she said she didnt want to upset me and didnt know how i would react, because the last person she did it to cried and she felt awful. her reason for dumping me because she wanted some space because her last relationship was a bad one and she thought she was ready for another one which she wasnt, even though she had another one before me. I'm really confused and quite upset about it, it was really good before and it was totally out of the blue. what should i do?thanks
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 yeah, the MSN thing may have givin her a wrong impression. id just follow th step in my last post:
"just call her and tell her your sorry about things and that you undersatnd and if there was anything you can do to help just let you know. she will like you for it and really resepect your understanding... Try to maintain that understanding too. Don't call her all the time just get the message accross and then be there when she calls you."
Be supportive. It may take a while if you want her back but what ever you do -- DON'T -- ever show aggression you will seriously lose her forever. Many blokes lose at this game when they could have won her back. If you want her back just be cool and supportive of her she may come back.
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reader, matti +, writes (29 December 2008):
matti is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not the rebound, because she hasnt been in a relationship for ages which is why im confused by her reason.
can you confirm if shes still talking with the ex? -no she hates him
and we communicated whenever we could, but more in person, and we talked about it alot but it was msn so it was difficult to express feelings.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (28 December 2008):
It sounds like she was on the rebound. can you confirm if shes still talking with the ex? if so then she has rebounded of you and will probably go back to him.
If not then mabey shes simply genuine and really did need some space, how much have you been communication with her how often, like everyday? if so over email, myspace, sms, phone is really not good. it actually has a negative impact on a relationship and creates unrealistic impressions of who you are. reason being she may read your words not the same way as you would say them. face-to-face communication is always the best.
just call her and tell her your sorry about things and that you undersatnd and if there was anything you can do to help just let you know. she will like you for it and really resepect your understanding... try to maintain that understanding too. dont call her all the time just get the message accross and then be there when she calls you.
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