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writes:I am currently at school right now and met a girl I find I really like a lot. We transferred in the same semester (this is both our first semesters) and are in a class together, often get paired in group projects together, etc. I've been debating asking her out for months or waiting for the right moment but nothing seems to work. I've only recently gotten over a relationship that ended very bitterly so I've been proceeding with caution. The closest I've got to telling her is an anonymous school confessions thing on the school's social networking page.Today I get hit with two WHAM moments. First off, her cousin is in the hospital right now suffering meningitis and I can tell it's really hard for her and the family. I don't want to confess feelings for her right when she's dealing with something so dire. Then I also find out that she's leaving after this semester to go back to the school she transferred from, which is five hours away. I'm at a crossroads, I don't want to lose her but at the same time I don't want to impose or make things awkward for us all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2014): Don't confess anything, just ask her out on a date. OP it's not really a good idea to just pour your feelings out after months of knowing someone anyway, it's a bit much.
It's not bad to admit and show interest of course but you don't want to overload them. It would be fine if you knew she was interested in you too but you don't.
I mean she's known you so long and you've never made a move, to just suddenly some in from left field with a love confession can ruin your chances.
So just ask her out on a romantic date and see what happens.
OP there's never "a good time", because there'll never be that perfect moment you need for your balls to grow enough to do it.
So just ask her out, see what she says. if she agrees the great, if not then there's no need for your love confession.
Just make sure it's a romantic date OP.
One final thing; rejection is not a bad thing, it's a good thing. It's actually a victory because it means you had the balls to try and you also get closure on the whole thing and won't look back on this wondering what could have been if you only went for it.
OP you'll never know until you try and next time, get in there quicker, if you can. You really don't want to end up friends with a girl you like and end up seeing her date another guy.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 April 2014):
You can't lose what you don't have. Right now you just have a crush on someone, it doesn't sound like there's a relationship of any sorts or even a friendship.
If I was you I'd learn a valuable lesson here: don't wait for some magical moment to ask someone out. What you're really doing is letting your fear get the best of you and ensuring some other guy asks her out before you do.
At this point there's no good reason to ask her out for the reasons you just stated. Why begin a potential relationship with someone who is leaving. That's asking for heartbreak.
Next time don't delay.
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