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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So basically.. my boyfriend (now my ex) and I broke up a couple weeks ago. We both decided it would be best for us to let things go, and accept the fact that we shouldn't be together. We were together for about 3 years, and during the middle of our 2nd year, things just went downhill; we fought more, we talked less.. etc. There was actually a time during our relationship where we took a break from each other, and that was when he told me he had met this girl who really liked him. At first i didn't care because I knew that the only reason he brought her up was because he wanted to make me jealous, and I have to admit that I was getting a little jealous. And although we were on our break, we still talked, and fought about stupid things. And when we fought, I always seemed to tell him to go to the girl. He kept telling me, "No. I want you." I was frustrated because he spent more time with her than he did with me throughout our whole relationship. When we decided to get back together and try to work our relationship out, things didn't get any better. I had a sense of him cheating on me with the other girl; I just never said anything. So when we broke up, I told him "Don't text me. Don't call me. Don't visit me" I pretty much just told him to get out of my life. And the moment I said that, he tells me that the girl had just asked him out and he tells me they're together.BUT.. he also texts me a couple minutes later saying "I still want to be there for you to make up for all the bad things I have done in the past.. I want to be your best friend."Now, I'm just really confused because now that they're together, I'm realizing that he's treating her 100x better than he treated me. I just don't understand how I could be with someone who tells me he loves me, he'll take care of me, he'll do this and that.. and then walk away like nothing happened. I can't understand how he's able to tell me he wants to be my best friend but walk away.. I feel like it's my fault. And the crazy thing is; I still really miss him, and I'm afraid that I might still love him. One last thing; I tried calling him last night because I was really sick and I needed someone to talk to, and I was hoping he would be there for me. But he never picked up his cell, so I call his new girlfriend's cell and surprisingly enough, HE PICKS UP HER PHONE AND STARTS TALKING TO ME IN FRONT OF HER. He talked to me like I was drunk, like I was crazy. He kept telling me "I have to go." But all I kept trying to say to him was that I needed him because I didn't feel too well, and all he said was to go talk to my mom or something and laughed. I felt humiliated, so I hung up. I don't know what to do now. All I have been doing was crying my eyes out because I can't think of any other way to get him out of my head.I'm sorry this is like a page long. I just needed to let my feelings out, I hope someone or anyone could help me and give me good advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Hi! Thank You for the advice, I have just finished writing the letter. I expressed every feeling I kept inside me and wrote it all down on one piece of paper. Thank You Again!
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 Hi there.
You have told him on several occasions to go and be with this girl, so all he has really done - he took your advice!
It is the same as with girls telling their boyfriends - oh um, I am so fat, I need to lose weight - and guess what, even if they are not overweight everyone starts believing that they are, since they complain all the time.
Sometimes its just best not to play games, if you want attention let him know instead of sending him in the arms of another girl.
I suggest that you keep your contact to a bare minimum while its only been a few weeks since the broke up. It will only upset you more...
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