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writes:To all of you that take the time to read this,Right well i'm just going to jump straight into this one. Basically, I am in love but it's unrequited.It's a difficult situation this one, I have had feelings for this man for just near enough a year now...We had some sort of a fling - but it meant more to me than him. Typical of me to throw myself in the at the deep end, I never learn! Well anyway although I don't think he will ever have feelings as strong for me as I do for him, I do think that there are feelings there, i'd say im 90% sure of that. But - he swans off with other girls (not infront of me or anything but when i'm not around) and last weekend I was merely dancing with a male friend and I was getting the daggers but he looked genuinely hurt too. Basically it made me feel guilty when it really shouldn't have as I was doing nothing wrong then later on that night I saw this guy who i've known for a while, he is also a very close friend of the guy I like anyway he was asking me for my number and I gave it to him thinking he was only being friendly but it turns out that he was really trying to get me to hook up with him! I couldn't believe he could do this to one of his closest friends but the thing is even though I don't like this guy just pretend for a second that I did, why should I feel guilty for wanting to go on a date with him, at the end of the day it's not like the one I want wants me. I just cant get over him though. I genuinely am in love with him but I need to walk away from this situation because it's affecting my life in so many ways.Friendly advice is much appreciated, thank you for taking the time to read this.Leigha xoxo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Hi this sounds very unfortunate for you to be going through. Its a typical case of its ok for him to give you the run around and have a string of dates with other girls. But is unhappy to see you living in the same way. It may look as if he is hurt but it sounds to me to be the start of jelousy which if you do get with this guy you have to be careful that your love will not be taken advantage of and he uses that to control you While he still plays away. I would seriously consider your options that an affatuation you have could also wear off when you see his true side if you are to get together. Basicly im trying to say be careful and be happy but take your time as you never know whats around the corner for you and that could be mr right
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