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writes:im currently in a situation that can be likened to the Carrie-Aiden-Big triangle on sex and the city.My 'Aidan' is a boy i've been distant friends with for about two years now, following the demise of his relationship we grew closer and recently embarked upon a romantic relationship together. when im with him, he's so lovely and romantic and i know that he really really means what he's saying to me. i love that i make him so happy, and i really do enjoy his company.My 'Big' is a boy i've been in love with (in varying degrees!) for the past three years. he was my first relationship that meant something and whilst he has lied to me and let me down there is still something there. every time i speak to him, i am completely enchanted with him, his words and his incredibly interesting and brilliant mind. my dilemma is this; 'big' leaves for university on the other side of the country in a few months. do i persue a brief relationship with 'Big', (which would be a sexual one- just to clarify) because it would be the last time, and i haven't slept with him (or anyone) before and i dont want him to go away and for me to regret not losing my virginity to someone who i do love, despite his faults.and is my relationship with 'aidan' bound of catostrophic failure due to the fact that my feelings for 'big' are so much more intense and in awe of him that they are with 'aidan' or is this simply attributed to the fact that they are different people in completely different places in their lives?('aidan' is a year younger than me, 'big' two years older)thank you for reading this far into the long winded question i give you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I think you already know the answer to who you'd like to be with because of the 'intense' feelings you feel for Big. Big sounds dangerous, exciting and the bad guy type no girl can refuse, but Aidan is the guy we'd all dream to settle down with.It's up to you, if you are tied to neither, then you have an open playing field, but if you do go for Big, will you be able to get over him, because as he's going to uni, he may meet someone there, he might not be yours, would you be able to get over that-if not, maybe it's best to avoid him-but then again, you might regret it, but do you want to lose your virginity to someone who deeply loves you and who has never let you down? Of course you do, is this Big?They are differnt people, they sound complete opposites, my advice is who do you believe will love you more-would you regret haveing a sexual relationship with Big if he is going to basically 'love em and leave em? Would you regret it if it actually did work out with Aidan and you lost your virginity to Big?Lots to think about and ponder over, but my advice is don't have any regrets, then you will be happy.Much love
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