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writes:A little more than over a year ago, I started to have this relationship with this guy who lived in a totally different state than me. We became real close, even if we were off and on for practically a year. Anyhow, when this all first happened; things were actually really great. I found myself happy and loving this "love" thing. It was new and it was nice. After the first time we broke up, shortly after he started talking to this other girl he got from MY myspace. So, ofcourse I was crushed. She totally manipulated him, and he "fell"for her. I was the good friend, helping along even though she was destroying him slowly. She wouldn't go out with him, and he was crushed. His best friend, who I'm friends with also, hated this "girl" too. He cut off connections with her and ofcourse, and we got close again. The, we fell in love for the 2394723th time. He knew how his best friend and I felt about him talking to this girl, and he said he would stop, and we believe him. It's been a year, and we were on and off; we could never stop loving each other. But, this year he's turning 18, I'm 15 turning 16. So, he broke my heart and we've been friends for about a month; just friends. It's been hard, and I've been trying to stop talking to him. For the past month, I've asked him if he still loved me, and he said yes and the "age thing" was the only thing keeping us apart. He just said he wanted to be my best friend, that was the only thing possible.I even told him I still loved him, and all he said was "it means a lot" What!? Well, a few days ago, his best friend talks to me and says how she found secret messages of him and this girl talking AGAIN. I was crushed, totally heartbroken again. AND apparentally he's been talking to this other girl also; they like each other. I haven't talked to him in a few days, I just can't anymore. I've been lied to so many times, and cried too much over this. Everything for the past year has gone out the window because I feel it's all been a lie.Am I doing the right thing? Is it normal to feel cheated on and heartbroken? And, should I not talk to him? If so, how should I get over him because it's so hard NOT to talk to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): my issue is not exactly like you... i met him since we studied in same state... and his university is quite near with mine... and we lived in the same hostel the 2 univs provided... at first we just be best friends... he's the first guy i like so much... i don't really have good memories with guys before... and he's so nice and very polite... then there's time i came to his rooms... we watched movies and talked to each other... but then he kinda used me... for some stuffs... give him pleasure... though i don't like it.. but i want him to be happy... so i did it anyway... but lately... he changed... usually he would offer to walk me back to my room... but ever since he asked me to do stuffs... he never even said good night... he asked me to come like i was his pet... i came anyway... tho i was hurt... i like him a lot... and he knew that... he would do anything he wants... and then after he's done he would just ask me to leave his room... just like that.... never even bother to walk me to the door... or what... then he moved out of the apartment... then we cna only talk through messages... but i barely talk to him anymore... because he ignores my messages...and later he said he forgot about me already... even though he said i am his best friend... i tried not to talk to him... but it's been so hard....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Its apparent that he isn't into you guys as a couple as much as you are and though it's hard you deserve a relationship where the feelings are strong on both sides. You're still young. Go out have fun with friends, and prove that you don't need someone to make you happy. Don't feel heartbroken and cheated on because truth be told he's nothing but another person on the Internet. You may think that you 'love' him but I think you just love the idea of somebody like him. As for the betrayal, my guess is that you two started talking over the Internet too which just means he's probably done this before. Take my advice and just cut him off and over time forget about him. This is a time where you should be interacting with other types of people and finding out what type of person you want to be with. Your passing up expiriences that you should be having and for what? For somebody who, let's face it, you're probably never going to see? It may feel hard but it's possible. And years from now you're probably going to regret that you wasted time on someone like him in the first place. Good luck! and try to recognize what's worth it and what's not
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