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*iss Moe
writes:So a about 3 weeks ago I meet a guy through another friend , It went great for a couple of days then he tells me he is bisexual I accept it at the time , then that night we start to talk and he uses this line I like you I just don't want to hurt you , So he asks me if I still want to date I say of course , I really like him , So its been about 4 weeks and hes drifting away from me , he acts like he doesn't like me any more , He never txts unless I do first , and when I tell him I love him he says okay , Also to add the fourth day we were dating he told me he loved me , thus I started to tell him I love him because I do, Now I don't know what to do , I want us together and happy When we are person to person there's always cuddling and happiness but when we are apart he treats me so differently it hurts , What should I do , should I leave him or stay and see if he comes to like me again ? what should I tell him?? I need advice very bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Hi there,
I think you need to clarify with him his reasons for telling you he is bisexual specifically whether he's just being open about his past or whether he's trying to tell you he will be dating other people.
You didn't say whether you have any committment. Have you two discussed this?
I'd also ask what he meant when he said he doesn't want to hurt you. He may be indirectly telling you he only wants a short term relationship and one that is based on sex.
When you have these points clarified, you'll be in a better position to work out what he's offering and whether you're both wanting the same thing.
I'd let him know you sense him pulling away and does he need space or is he losing interest. You'll need to find out otherwise you'll be left hanging.
I'd stop telling him you love him until you get yourself some clarity from him.
If you've been sexually intimate with him, I'd assume he is only interested in sex and that's why he's affectionate when in your presence and distant when not.
As I said, I believe some straight talk in a casual way is what's needed for you to make more sense of this and to be better able to know what your getting yourself into.
Good luck.
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