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writes:My bf makes me feel guilty and gets jealous if another guy just talks to me. So, to save his feelings, if a guy talks to me, I try to not really say much, hoping he will get the idea. But my bf still gets jealous and makes comments like "you're mine! not his!! you are mine.". I dont really have any guy friends, but I do go to college with alot of guys and have to work with them on group projects etc. Even when its completelly innocent, he worries about them cracking onto me, even though alot of those guys respect that im in arelationship. And if they didnt, if they started flirting or made a move, id def tell them off. BUt when they are innocently talking to me, I dont know what to do. I dont want to be rude, but i hate the way it makes my bf feel, and then he makes me guilty.On the other hand, he has lots of girl friends, which to him is perfectly acceptable but not for me to have guy friends neverless just talk to them. Its ok for him to point out hot girls, and its ok for him to send messages with kisses and hugs to other girls. But heaven forbid another guy just says to me 'hi how are you'.I dont really know how to deal with all of this. I care for him so much and am prepared to lose most of the males in my life in order for him to feel secure etc. However as much as I try it seems its not enough. And I feel like I shoudlnt have to, espcailly considering hes flirty with other girls, and im not allowed to have non flirty innocent friendships with males. My bf is 25 and im 19.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Yep I agree, this is a control freak and this is just the beginning. Next he won't like your girlfriends and then it's your family members. Soon he'll be telling you what to wear and when to wear it. A control freak needs more and more control. Tell him to knock this crap off and if he doesn't then you'll have the writing on the wall.
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