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30-35,
*ikiSpade
writes:My boyfriend of two years told me when we started dating he never watches porn. turns out he watches and masturbates everyday. it makes me feel gross about myself. i love him we have a 6 month old son together and i wanna stay with him. i asked him to stop and he promiced he would...3 times. so i tried saying its okay and watched it with him, but seeing him and the girls he looks at made it worse. he looks at a girl that looks like me only skinnyer with nicer breasts and lots of tattoos. now i dont know what to do he clearly doesnt want to stop but its pushing me away i can barely even look him in the eye
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reader, NikiSpade +, writes (21 October 2010):
NikiSpade is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help! i spoke with him about trying to make it better for him so he wouldnt want to watch porn anymore and he said the sex is great we used to have crazy sex in random places ( movie theater forests regular teenage stuff ) and he still went and watched. so i mentioned he could take my pictures and i think he may be ok with that but im in the awkward body after baby then pregnant again phase but im going to take your advice and try anyways! Thank you again =)
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reader, Ven  +, writes (18 October 2010):
Kick his butt into rehab. Porn addiction is a clinical addiction, and is arguably more difficult to stop than drinking or smoking. Thanks to the internet we have free 24-hour access to it, making quitting barely possible.
There are support groups, help groups, and full-blown rehab centers for it. If he loves you, he needs to get involved with them somewhere. It may be embarrassing, but a guy could call himself lucky if being embarrassed was all he went through for the woman he loves.
Also, regular sex can be a big help. Getting involved with bedroom fantasies, turning up the heat in your love life, can actually drive men towards not being excited enough by audio/video stimulation to be interested.
When my wife and I first started going crazy sexually, I couldn't masturbate. I simply couldn't get myself aroused enough with pictures or video or daydreams. Make the sex good, and you will make his rehab that much easier.
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