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writes: I think my girlfriend thinks all I want is sex and what not, but it's not. I really love her. How can I convince her that's not all I want? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): Maybe you're girlfriend doesnt just think you want sex but what she really thinks is that all you want to do is fondle her.You have to tell her you love her more and keep reminding her you dont just want sex,maybe sometime if she wants it,tell her you're not in the mood (even if you really are) that'll show that you're not just looking for a hop in the sack,to a chick that shows affection and love.Dont second thought you're mind and think that she doesnt love you,belive me she probubly does,just cuddle with her more,girls really love to cuddle!Hope i helped you out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): Have days were you dont do it.Take her out for a meal, or take her on a nice day trip to a beach or to have a picnic. Do something nice and make it obvious that having sex isnt the only thing you want to do with her, you just enjoy spending time with her.ITS NICE.xxx
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (3 July 2006):
 Some men (and I'm not saying you're necessarily one of them) only show their wives and girlfriends affection when they want sex - and it can make women super-sensitive in the way your girlfriend seems to be. She might only notice that you only seem to kiss and cuddle when you want to hop into the sack.
The way out of that is to show some genuine cuddliness from time to time without expecting it to end in orgasm. Kiss her when you see her after work, hold her hand when you're driving, sit close on the lounge when you're watching a movie, even forego sex now and then at a time when you might usually have it (like just before you go to sleep) and just kiss instead.
Yes, there's a sacrifice involved, in that you might miss out on a bit of sex at first. But if you think of it as an "investment" in your relationship, then you'll probably find that she's much more affectionate spontaneously in return, and you'll make up for lost opportunities later on down the track. When she realises that affection doesn't necessarily mean you're "after something", she may start initiating it. And that's more fun for both of you, when you think about it.
Just a thought. Hope it helps.
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